KISS your way to healthier teeth!

Hey everyone! Miss me?? Ooops..sorry for the long silence. Too busy, too lazy, too many excuses for not posting any new entries for sometime now. I am back so keep coming back for more insights to this thing called L.O.V.E.!

Here's a great tip for the day, infact every day!!

Dental advisors at the British Dental Association say that KISSING is "nature's own cleaning process". It is a great way to prevent plaque build-up and tooth decay!

Constant lip-locking promotes saliva production, which in turn, washes away sugary solutions in the mouth and acidic saliva from consuming foods such as eggs, meat, wine and yoghurt. As a result, plaque buil-up is reduced, boosting the lifespan of your teeth.

Wow! So you choose....toothbrush or a juicy KISS??? Errr...I think both! :)

She says THIS but she means THAT!

FINE
This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks - this will cause you to have one of those arguments.

FIVE MINUTES
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it's an even trade.

NOTHING
This means "something," and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and end with "Fine"

GO AHEAD (With Raised Eyebrows)
This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine"

GO AHEAD (Normal Eyebrows)
This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care" You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.

LOUD SIGH
This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing"

SOFT SIGH
Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. "Soft Sighs" mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.

THAT'S OKAY
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and in conjunction with a "Raised Eyebrow."

GO AHEAD!
At some point in the near future, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.

PLEASE DO
This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get a "That's Okay"

THANKS
A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say you're welcome.

THANKS A LOT
This is much different from "Thanks." A woman will say, "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the "Loud Sigh." Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh," as she will only tell you "Nothing"

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10 things you must do before saying "I do"

"I do" is 2 simple words but it has significant meaning when directed at the question of - Will you marry me? When you say "I do", it comes with a commitment to spend the rest of your life with the other person. It is not about being caught in the moment. For the person who asks and for the person who answers, it is a lifetime commitment. So, probably "we do" is more appropriate.

I decided to come up with my 10 things to do before saying "We do". Marriage is a big step and saying "We do" should not be taken lightly. These tips are some of my thought process before I took my big step. I hope it helps.

10 things you must do before saying "We do"


1. Ask yourself this question -Do you truly love each other? but the more important question to answer is - Can you see yourself living the rest of your life with this person?

You need to be certain that both of you love each other. Unfortunately, it’s easy to confuse infatuation and lust with love. Sometimes being comfortable with someone can also be confused with love. Suffice to say that infatuation is more about BEING IN LOVE with the way someone makes you feel. True love happens slowly and it requires nurture and time to grow and strengthen ; it’s about being committed and concerned for your partner’s well being. Therefore, you must be able to see yourself spending the rest of your life building and growing this commitment of love.

2. Get your parents blessings.

A marriage blessed by both parents are so important. Without the parents blessings, there will always be a discomfort in your heart. Infact, I believe that the right thing to do is for the man to ask for the girl's parents blessings before the proposal. Firstly, that shows respect and respect to parents that way, says a lot of the character of the man. This will definitely start the relationship with in-laws in the right way too.


3. Get your blood test done

It is just not about HIV or STD but also others for a new couple to consider. As I understand from my doctor, one such is Thalassemia which is a blood disorder. If you and your soon to be spouse are both Thalassemia carriers there is a 25% chance that your child will be born with Thalasemia and survival rate is low in the first 10 years. While it is unfortunate and blood should not be a determinant of love or marriage but you would want to make an informed decision. You can get married and you can still decide if having kids is an option that both of you want to take.

4. Decide how you want to handle finances

Money, this thing called money has a higher chance of destroying a marriage than improving it. Therefore a discussion of money or how to handle finances should be done before taking the plunge. "Who will be paying the bills? One joint account? separate accounts? Wife get allowances from husband? Who pay for what?" While many do not want to discuss about money cos it seemed so unromantic but I recommend to have a discussion and at the very least both of you can express your views and both will understand what are each other's expectations.

5. Who cleans the toilet??

This is about household chores. In this day and age, women are no longer the expected person to handle household chores. For most marriages it has become a shared responsibility. In many household, women are still the head to handle all household chores. Many couples do not discuss because it may seem like a trivial matter. However, I decided to tell my hubby to be....what my habits are, expectations of shared responsibility so we both going in the marriage with a right expectations.


6. Talk about children

Do you want children? If both of you want children, great. If neither of you wants to have children, that’s great too. The important thing is being on the same page when it comes to children, when to have them, and how to raise them. Many couples have split up over issues like this, all because they failed to ask this important pre-marriage question: “Do you want to have kids someday?”

7. Decide where to stay

This is important, sometimes we don't have a choice eg. both of you don't have a house so will have to stay with in-laws. Please align that clearly and both should agree. If staying with parents is a choice eg, Man will need to take care of parents always, make sure that your wife to be knows and will agree. I believe if given a choice, it is always great to start a newly married life together. This will ensure quality time spent without having to deal with family squabbles.

8. Throw away that little black book

This is not only for the guys but for the ladies too. When we decide to take the plunge, things will be different. We no longer can just go out with the opposite sex anytime, we want. No more flirting, no more flings. Are you ready for that?

9. Do you share the same beliefs?

If not, can you respect your differences? It’s easiest to marry someone who shares the same religious beliefs as yourself. However, it’s very possible for two people from different religious backgrounds to have a harmonious marriage If they’re able to understand and respect those differences. You should never marry someone with the hope of converting them to your idea of the “truth.” Religion is a tricky area and best to discuss to understand where each other stand.

10. Plan a great wedding and honeymoon but remember marriage is not the wedding.

Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Do not let the wedding and honeymoon become the end all and be all. I have seen people who really spent all the time and money to have the wedding of their dreams but in the midst of that, it has caused arguments, disagreements, tears etc. And it ended up that the wedding was the most unhappy time for the couple though it was the most beautiful wedding with the most beautiful decor and the most delicious food. The wedding should be a happy occasion so have fun planning it, don't raise the bar so high. End in mind should be a happy wedding not just a grand wedding.

So, are you ready to say "We do"?

101 ways to Say I LOVE YOU

It is only Tuesday......sigh....so I feel I need to spread a little love around. So cheer up by saying the 3 words of love. Read on, I have a small challenge at the end of this post.

Those three little words, "I Love You", hold a lot of meaning, but there's more ways to say them than you think.

Here are 101 different ways for you to verbally express your love to your sweetheart.

I adore you.
I am infatuated with you.
I appreciate you.
I can't live without you.
I can't stop thinking about you when we're apart.
I cherish you.
I dream of you.
I live for our love.
I love being around you.
I need you by my side.
I need you.
I respect you.
I value you.
I want a lifetime with you.

I want you.
I worship you.
I yearn for you.
I'm a better person because of you.
I'm blessed to have you in my life.
I'm devoted to you.
I'm fond of you.
I'm lost without you.
I'm nothing without you.
I'm passionate about you.
I'm thankful for you.
I'm yours.
Me and you. Always.
My love is unconditional.
Our love is invaluable.
Take me, I'm yours.
The thought of you brings a smile to my face.
Ti tengu cara (to female) or Ti tengu caru (to male).
Together, forever.
We were meant to be together.
You are a blessing in disguise.
You are an angel from God.
You are like a candle burning bright.
You are my crush.
You are my dear.
You are my everything.
You are my heart's desire.
You are my life.
You are my one and only.
You are my one true love.
You are my reason for living.
You are my strength.
You are my sunshine.
You are my treasure.
You are my world.
You are precious.
You are the light of my life.
You are the reason I'm alive.
You bring happiness to rainy days.
You bring joy to my life.
You cast a spell on me that can't be broken.
You complete me.
You drive me wild.
You fill me with desire.
You fill my heart.
You give me wings to fly.
You had me from hello.
You hold the key to my heart.
You inspire me.
You intoxicate me.
You lift me up to touch the sky.
You light my flame.
You light up my life.
You make me hot.
You make my heart skip a beat.
You make my world a better place.
You mean the world to me.
You motivate me.
You rock my world.
You seduce me.
You set my heart on fire.
You simply amaze me.
You stole my heart.
You sweeten my sour days.
You turn my world upside down.
You turn the darkness into light.
You're a dream come true.
You're a gem.
You're a twinkle in my eye.
You're absolutely wonderful.
You're all I want.
You're as beautiful as a sunset.
You're beautiful.
You're charming.
You're enchanting.
You're heavenly.
You're my angel.
You're my perfect match.
You're one in a million.
You're priceless.
You're sexy.
You're the apple of my eye.
You're the best thing that ever happened to me.
You're the best.
You're the diamond in the rough.
You're the one for me.
You're the one I've always wished for.

OK....The challenge : here's what you can do.

1. Choose just one and say it to your loved one tonight.

2. Send one every day via email to your loved one for the next 100 days.

Come on, come on, it would be a lovely gesture. I will do it and if you do it too....let me know what's the response yeah!

Heidi Klum & Seal - Still on Their Honeymoon!

I love stories about LOVE. Yeah...I am a hopeless romantic. So, I am sharing this bit of celebrity love news I just read from People.com.

I know that love in Hollywood is so fragile, it almost never lasts and we hear more about "phonecall" break-ups to messy divorces more than we hear about happily every after. I guess Hollywood is not a fairytale after all.

So whenever I read a piece of celebrity news which celebrates love, I almost always feel....there is hope. Love can prevail!

This is an interview with Heidi Klum and she talks about her husband Seal and how she feels she is still on honeymoon even though she's been married for a few years.

She has been married to Seal for three years, but Heidi KLum still feels like a newlywed. "Sometimes I lie in bed and I'm like, 'Oh my god, there's Seal lying next to me. What's he doing there?' " Klum tells In Style in its December issue. "I get a smile on my face immediately. Our honeymoon period is definitely not over."

How do Klum, 35, and Seal, 45, keep the spice in their relationship? "[We] have date nights," she says. "We go to dinner or to the movies. We like to keep it romantic. Some people wake up in the morning and turn over when they see their mate. That's not us."

Klum also credits her husband – not her modeling career – for her personal style evolution. "I've gotten more stylish since I've been with my husband," she says in the interview. "I was always making fun of him because he has so many leather coats, jackets and shoes. But he looks hot."

"I want to look good for him," Klum says. "So I kind of stepped it up a bit." The Project Runway host also shares her husband's interest in music. They sing together, she says, even if she isn't always on key. "We sing all the time," Klum says. "He's always rolling his eyeballs because I'm in the wrong key. But I know he's laughing about it too. So I'm not a singer – who cares? Not everyone is Seal!"

Isn't it romantic? It is always nice to read declarations of love.

Some key tips on feeling like you are on your honeymoon all the time :-

- they still spend quality time as a couple (even though they have kids) eg. date nights

- they make the effort to be involved in each other's interest. Seal is a singer, so she sings too

- Appreciate each other

- Make fun of each other

- Make the effort to look good for your spouse

Hope this piece of news give you hope on love.

10 signs He is in to You

When you meet a guy and you have just dated a few times, sometimes it is hard to gauge if he interested or not. Some guys want to be cool and since they are also unsure about your feelings they may not be so forthright in their pursuit.

However, there are a few tell tale signs that he is already smitten with you. Watch out for it.

1. He picks you up from the airport

2. He is comfortable listening to his phone message or phone call infront of you

3. He refers to the two of you as "we". eg We loved the James Bond movie.....

4. He calls you every morning at work and also at night before you sleep.

5. He asks you if you wanna go out shopping - any excuse to ask you out :)

6. He brings you soup when you are sick. aarrghhh!

7. He talks about his family and hints about a holiday to his home town

8. He invites you to join him on a boys night out.

9. He sends you flowers for no special reason.

10. He does not refuse when asked to be photographed together.

What do you think? Am I right? Did I miss any other pointers? Share...share....

5 things ruining your sex life in your bedroom

The question to ask is "Who is sleeping with you in your bedroom? Is it your spouse or is there someone else or something else that is taking the passion out of the bed?

The bedroom should be a place for your spouse and you. A bed of passion.

These are top 5 things that is sure a killer to the mood if you allow these sleeping partners to slip into bed with you.

1. The Baby

Taking care of a baby is not easy especially in the first few months. The crying, wailing for milk and also attention they seek from you as parents. It not only takes sex away from the bedroom but also sleep. It may be difficult but remember it is best to comfort them but leave them back in their cot and not take the baby in bed too. Once you start having the baby in your bed, it will be years before they leave :)


2. The Television

In this day and age, a telly in the bedroom is as common as a sofa in the living room. With a hectic lifestyle, there is not much time for the telly so catching the shows before bedtime is common for a lot of couple. But it is a real passion killer. The routine for bedtime would be telly before sleep no longer sex before sleep. So, if you can, try to ship the telly right out of the bedroom or better yet do not ship a telly in if it was never there. It's not easy and I don't think I can ever convince my hubby to move the TV out. Anyway, this may help (I have not used it yet) - "Studies show that a television kept on standby generates magnetic fields and imperceptible levels of noise that disrupt sleep"

3. Money $$$

Money is the root of all evil and money is also the cause of all arguments. Couples often argue about money especially when they lack of the green bucks. Never talk about money before sleep, or you won't get any action that night.

4. Work

Work stress is part and parcel of the working life. It is difficult to erase from work just because you are home. Especially if there is a deadline or your boss just gave you a scolding earlier in the day, it is common to bring the work worries back home. However, remember work is still just work at the end of the day. Your time with your family is most important. Be present when you are home, and ensure you are making every moment count. Also, sex helps to release endorphins that will lift your spirits and you will feel more positive to work again the next day!!

5. The drink..... or that one last drink...

Yup yup....if you had one too many drinks during after office drinks session, most often you will find that you would be struggling to perform. It is a myth to think that a few drinks will get you all ready to romp in the bedroom. Yeah, you probably want to but men may find it hard to perform and even for women who drank too much can have problems reaching orgasm. So, do pace yourself when you are out drinking.

What do you think? Can you kick these disruptive sleeping partners out of your bed?

Sexual Assault

As I was surfing the net, I came across this blog posting on Dreams & Reality.

It is about sexual predators, those "sick in the head" people who prey after women whether young or old. They may not go to the extend of rape but they thrive on sexual harassment or sexual assault, sometimes a slight grey area that is not so easily caught.

Some of their acts - Flasher (flashing of their genitals), they sit near you on the bus/train, they pressed themselves against you in crowded places, fondling - they accidentally touch your legs, breast, buttocks, verbal assault, incest and also sexual harassment at work. Worst is that these people likely will prey on kids, young teenagers who are not aware of what's wrong or what's right.

I do have a personal experience to share. I was very young, probably just 10 years old and I was taking public transportation to school in my hometown. Those times, it is very common to be taking public transportation to school at a young age, unlike now. I still remember I was sitting beside this big burly Indian man. I fell asleep. When I woke up, I saw that he has taken his dick out from his pants and was massaging it. It was a long time ago and I was very young but I was so ignorant that all I thought of was "poor guy - he must be sick (ill), his pee pee is injured and he is examining it." . I just remember that. I got off the bus after and it never made an impression on me after and I did not tell anyone. I just did not know better.

Now that I recall back, obviously that was a sick man, and this time I mean "psycho sick", "asshole" sick, "should be put in jail" kinda of sick. I really wonder why these men exists, what is going through their psychotic brains. Whatever it is, I feel we just need to protect ourselves, protect our children.

Some tips of what to do :-

1) Trust your Instincts

Firstly, we must know what is right and what is wrong. Sometimes sexual harassment feels a bit in the grey area (especially when it is a friend) but we must follow our instincts. If we don't feel comfortable, we must voice out. We must stop it and do not allow it to continue. Eg. A friend was on a plane and the guy beside her (smartly dressed, articulate and seemed like a perfect gentleman), he started a conversation with her. As the conversation progressed, he started to sit closer and closer to her. She started to feel uncomfortable, decided not to talk anymore and she began reading a magazine. This guy did not stop, continue to lean closer and closer to her brushing on her arms. At first, she was too shy to do anything but she really felt uncomfortable and she voiced out, told him to stop, if not she would inform the stewardess. He stopped but yet still had the nerve to ask for her number!

2) Be aware & Educate yourself

We need to be alert always and ensure we do not put ourselves in a vulnerable position. Educate ourselves with the knowledge on where these people usually attack. For eg. when jogging in the park, in crowded places especially in trains and buses, person who sits beside you in public places, beware of your drinks when you go clubbing, staying late night in the office, going to a quiet car park alone etc - these are all potential areas where the sexual predator may strike.

3) Educate our children

I believe that sex education is important to today's children. Television and the Internet are such major influencers in their life from young. As parents, we must teach them what is wrong and what is right and how to protect themselves.

4) Stand up and Voice Out

Do not be a silent victim. Do not feel shy or embarrassed. I think sometimes, we feel too embarrassed to voice out especially when you are in a public place. You pretend that it is ok and hope that it will go away, you tell yourself maybe you are imagining it etc. No, we cannot keep silence. If we feel violated, we must voice out.

Guy's Sex Confessions - What they don't want you to do in bed?

I was reading Cosmopolitan and I thought the article on what guys don’t want women to do in bed is pretty interesting. These are few that I picked out and check out if you commit any of it.

1) Noise-making is great but don’t freak him out. Guys really dig into girls who respond in bed. It encourages him and a sign that he is doing the right things. But too much moaning will freak him out. He would think that you are too self absorbed and is not there for him eg. Even though he has not done anything, you are already moaning.

2) Being too self conscious of your body. I guess every woman is self conscious when naked. We are afraid that they will see our imperfections or touch our fleshy areas. But guys hate it when the girls are trying to cover up their bodies. They want a woman who is confident and ready to flaunt her body. If you are self conscious, dim the lights.

3) Too much unwanted hair. Ladies – remember to shave yeah….overgrown and untrimmed hair is not a turn-on. It's a total turn off.

4) Rushing off to the toilet immediately after sex. Ha ha…I thot this is what men do but apparently men don’t like it if their girl rush off to the toilet immediately after sex.

5) Be gentle as necessary. Men are very protective of their packs. While they like to see the girl taking charge, however do make sure you are not pressing or holding too hard. It is painful and all their mood will be gone.

Guys - Any confessions of your own? Do share. What about the gals? Share, Share.

What late PARTYING does to your looks?

We all probably had our share of partying days. For many, it is still a Friday night ritual and sometimes a few days a week. I believe partying is a phase that everyone should go through. As for me…been there, done that, I feel a little old for partying nowadays but I would still obliged once in a while. With the right company, it can be great fun.

However, I would like to warn all you party animals out there, what partying can do to your looks? I know when we are having fun, all other things does not matter. Hangovers, eye bags, headaches, don’t remember what you did last nite etc etc are common effects of a great partying night.

But what does it really do to your looks? It is a gradual effect but trust me….it ain’t pretty.

1) Your skin dries up.
I am sure you all know that you often feel very thirsty after a heavy drinking session. Alcohol has a dehydrating effect on your entire system. This will affect your entire body and the consequence is premature wrinkles. If you look at yourself in the mirror the next morning, you do look like you have aged 5 years right? 

2) Your face becomes blotchy
Blotchiness of you face can be a permanent feature after much drinking. As your body absorbs booze, blood vessels becomes dilated causing redness and flushing where skin is thinnest such as your skin and eyes. Not a pretty sight

3) You will have DULL hair, nails and teeth
Drinking interferes with the absorption of vitamins and nutrients into your bodies. And no matter how much vitamin A, D, calcium and zinc , your hair nails and teeth will be dull as the minerals can penetrate into our bodies

4) You pack on the pounds
Who says booze is water and thus less calories. One can of beer is at least 150 calories, and a margarita is about 400 or more. Furthermore, booze will boost your appetite…so not surprising the mamak (night food) business is 24 hours, catering for the hungry partygoers.

Did I paint a bleak picture? Don't worry, enjoy life when we are young. Just don't overdo it. Your body needs a rest too.