This is a really beautiful lesson to life.
Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio :
"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written.
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:"
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ''In five years, will this matter?".
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.
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I certainly did when it was forwarded to me.
Sunday, June 7, 2009
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
10 Benefits of Sex
10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex
The health benefits of sex extend well beyond the bedroom. Turns out sex is good for you in ways you may never have imagined.
By Kathleen DohenyWebMD Feature
Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD
Among the benefits of healthy loving in a relationship:
1. Sex Relieves Stress
A big health benefit of sex is lower blood pressure and overall stress reduction, according to researchers from Scotland who reported their findings in the journal Biological Psychology. They studied 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. Then the researchers subjected them to stressful situations -- such as speaking in public and doing verbal arithmetic -- and noted their blood pressure response to stress.
Those who had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.
Another study published in the same journal found that frequent intercourse was associated with lower diastolic blood pressure in cohabiting participants. Yet other research found a link between partner hugs and lower blood pressure in women.
2. Sex Boosts Immunity
Good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. Scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa., took samples of saliva, which contain IgA, from 112 college students who reported the frequency of sex they had.
Those in the "frequent" group -- once or twice a week -- had higher levels of IgA than those in the other three groups -- who reported being abstinent, having sex less than once a week, or having it very often, three or more times weekly.
3. Sex Burns Calories
Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.
"Sex is a great mode of exercise," says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.
4. Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health
While some older folks may worry that the efforts expended during sex could cause a stroke, that's not so, according to researchers from England. In a study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, scientists found frequency of sex was not associated with stroke in the 914 men they followed for 20 years.
And the heart health benefits of sex don't end there. The researchers also found that having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.
5. Sex Boosts Self-Esteem
Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.
That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge, Mass., although she finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. "One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves," she tells WebMD. "Great sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it."
6. Sex Improves Intimacy
Having sex and orgasms increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps us bond and build trust. Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh and the University of North Carolina evaluated 59 premenopausal women before and after warm contact with their husbands and partners ending with hugs. They found that the more contact, the higher the oxytocin levels.
"Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond," Britton says.
Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So if you're feeling suddenly more generous toward your partner than usual, credit the love hormone.
7. Sex Reduces Pain
As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher oxytocin levels.
In a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine, 48 volunteers who inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked lowered their pain threshold by more than half.
8. Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk
Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life, Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International. When they followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without, they found no association of prostate cancer with the number of sexual partners as the men reached their 30s, 40s, and 50s.
But they found men who had five or more ejaculations weekly while in their 20s reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer later by a third.
Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly.
9. Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles
For women, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegels during sex offers a couple of benefits. You will enjoy more pleasure, and you'll also strengthen the area and help to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life.
To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.
10. Sex Helps You Sleep Better
The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, according to research.
And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.
Source via WebMD, click this link
The health benefits of sex extend well beyond the bedroom. Turns out sex is good for you in ways you may never have imagined.
By Kathleen DohenyWebMD Feature
Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD
Among the benefits of healthy loving in a relationship:
1. Sex Relieves Stress
A big health benefit of sex is lower blood pressure and overall stress reduction, according to researchers from Scotland who reported their findings in the journal Biological Psychology. They studied 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. Then the researchers subjected them to stressful situations -- such as speaking in public and doing verbal arithmetic -- and noted their blood pressure response to stress.
Those who had intercourse had better responses to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained.
Another study published in the same journal found that frequent intercourse was associated with lower diastolic blood pressure in cohabiting participants. Yet other research found a link between partner hugs and lower blood pressure in women.
2. Sex Boosts Immunity
Good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. Scientists at Wilkes University in Wilkes-Barre, Pa., took samples of saliva, which contain IgA, from 112 college students who reported the frequency of sex they had.
Those in the "frequent" group -- once or twice a week -- had higher levels of IgA than those in the other three groups -- who reported being abstinent, having sex less than once a week, or having it very often, three or more times weekly.
3. Sex Burns Calories
Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.
"Sex is a great mode of exercise," says Patti Britton, PhD, a Los Angeles sexologist and president of the American Association of Sexuality Educators and Therapists. It takes work, from both a physical and psychological perspective, to do it well, she says.
4. Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health
While some older folks may worry that the efforts expended during sex could cause a stroke, that's not so, according to researchers from England. In a study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, scientists found frequency of sex was not associated with stroke in the 914 men they followed for 20 years.
And the heart health benefits of sex don't end there. The researchers also found that having sex twice or more a week reduced the risk of fatal heart attack by half for the men, compared with those who had sex less than once a month.
5. Sex Boosts Self-Esteem
Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by University of Texas researchers and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.
That finding makes sense to Gina Ogden, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage and family therapist in Cambridge, Mass., although she finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. "One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves," she tells WebMD. "Great sex begins with self-esteem, and it raises it. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it."
6. Sex Improves Intimacy
Having sex and orgasms increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, the so-called love hormone, which helps us bond and build trust. Researchers from the University of Pittsburgh and the University of North Carolina evaluated 59 premenopausal women before and after warm contact with their husbands and partners ending with hugs. They found that the more contact, the higher the oxytocin levels.
"Oxytocin allows us to feel the urge to nurture and to bond," Britton says.
Higher oxytocin has also been linked with a feeling of generosity. So if you're feeling suddenly more generous toward your partner than usual, credit the love hormone.
7. Sex Reduces Pain
As the hormone oxytocin surges, endorphins increase, and pain declines. So if your headache, arthritis pain, or PMS symptoms seem to improve after sex, you can thank those higher oxytocin levels.
In a study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine, 48 volunteers who inhaled oxytocin vapor and then had their fingers pricked lowered their pain threshold by more than half.
8. Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk
Frequent ejaculations, especially in 20-something men, may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life, Australian researchers reported in the British Journal of Urology International. When they followed men diagnosed with prostate cancer and those without, they found no association of prostate cancer with the number of sexual partners as the men reached their 30s, 40s, and 50s.
But they found men who had five or more ejaculations weekly while in their 20s reduced their risk of getting prostate cancer later by a third.
Another study, reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association, found that frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, were linked to lower prostate cancer risk in older men, as well, compared with less frequent ejaculations of four to seven monthly.
9. Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles
For women, doing a few pelvic floor muscle exercises known as Kegels during sex offers a couple of benefits. You will enjoy more pleasure, and you'll also strengthen the area and help to minimize the risk of incontinence later in life.
To do a basic Kegel exercise, tighten the muscles of your pelvic floor, as if you're trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release.
10. Sex Helps You Sleep Better
The oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, according to research.
And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure. Something to think about, especially if you've been wondering why your guy can be active one minute and snoring the next.
Source via WebMD, click this link
Monday, March 23, 2009
Men are Just HAPPIER People!
MEN ARE JUST HAPPIER PEOPLE
NICKNAMES
If Laura, Kate and Sarah go out for lunch, they will call each other Laura, Kate and Sarah.
If Mike, Dave and John go out, they will affectionately refer to each other as Fat Boy, Godzilla and Four-eyes.
EATING OUT
When the bill arrives, Mike, Dave and John will each throw in $20, even though it's only for $32.50. None of them will have anything smaller and none will actually admit they want change back.
When the girls get their bill, out come the pocket calculators.
MONEY
A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.
A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn't need but it's on sale.
BATHROOMS
A man has six items in his bathroom: toothbrush and toothpaste, shaving cream, razor, a bar of soap, and a towel ..
The average number of items in the typical woman's bathroom is 337. A man would not be able to identify more than 20 of these items.
ARGUMENTS
A woman has the last word in any argument.
Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.
FUTURE
A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.
SUCCESS
A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
A successful woman is one who can find such a man.
MARRIAGE
A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, but she does.
DRESSING UP
A woman will dress up to go shopping, water the plants, empty the trash, answer the phone, read a book, and get the mail.
A man will dress up for weddings and funerals.
NATURAL
Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.
Women somehow deteriorate during the night.
OFFSPRING
Ah, children. A woman knows all about her children. She knows about dentist appointments and romances, best friends, favourite foods, secret fears and hopes and dreams.
A man is vaguely aware of some short people living in the house.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
A married man should forget his mistakes. There's no use in two people remembering the same thing!
NICKNAMES
If Laura, Kate and Sarah go out for lunch, they will call each other Laura, Kate and Sarah.
If Mike, Dave and John go out, they will affectionately refer to each other as Fat Boy, Godzilla and Four-eyes.
EATING OUT
When the bill arrives, Mike, Dave and John will each throw in $20, even though it's only for $32.50. None of them will have anything smaller and none will actually admit they want change back.
When the girls get their bill, out come the pocket calculators.
MONEY
A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.
A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn't need but it's on sale.
BATHROOMS
A man has six items in his bathroom: toothbrush and toothpaste, shaving cream, razor, a bar of soap, and a towel ..
The average number of items in the typical woman's bathroom is 337. A man would not be able to identify more than 20 of these items.
ARGUMENTS
A woman has the last word in any argument.
Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.
FUTURE
A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.
SUCCESS
A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
A successful woman is one who can find such a man.
MARRIAGE
A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, but she does.
DRESSING UP
A woman will dress up to go shopping, water the plants, empty the trash, answer the phone, read a book, and get the mail.
A man will dress up for weddings and funerals.
NATURAL
Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.
Women somehow deteriorate during the night.
OFFSPRING
Ah, children. A woman knows all about her children. She knows about dentist appointments and romances, best friends, favourite foods, secret fears and hopes and dreams.
A man is vaguely aware of some short people living in the house.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
A married man should forget his mistakes. There's no use in two people remembering the same thing!
Thursday, March 12, 2009
The last fling before you get married
I was a very happy man. My wonderful girlfriend and I had been dating for over a year, and so we decided to get married.
There was only one little thing bothering me...It was her beautiful younger sister. My prospective sister-in-law was twenty-two, wore very tight miniskirts, and generally was bra-less. It had to be deliberate. One day her "little" sister called and asked me to come over to check the wedding invitations.
She was alone when I arrived, and she whispered to me that she had feelings and desires for me that she couldn't overcome. She told me that she wanted me just once before I got married and committed my life to her sister.
Well, I was in total shock, and couldn't say a word.
She said, "I'm going upstairs to my bedroom, and if you want one last wild fling, just come up and get me."
I was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs. I stood there for a moment, then turned and made a beeline straight to the front door. I opened the door, and headed straight towards my car.
Lo and behold, my entire future family was standing outside, all clapping!
With tears in his eyes, my father-in-law hugged me and said, "We are very happy that you have passed our little test. We couldn't ask for a better man for our daughter. Welcome to the family."
And the moral of this story is: Always keep your condoms in your car.
There was only one little thing bothering me...It was her beautiful younger sister. My prospective sister-in-law was twenty-two, wore very tight miniskirts, and generally was bra-less. It had to be deliberate. One day her "little" sister called and asked me to come over to check the wedding invitations.
She was alone when I arrived, and she whispered to me that she had feelings and desires for me that she couldn't overcome. She told me that she wanted me just once before I got married and committed my life to her sister.
Well, I was in total shock, and couldn't say a word.
She said, "I'm going upstairs to my bedroom, and if you want one last wild fling, just come up and get me."
I was stunned and frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs. I stood there for a moment, then turned and made a beeline straight to the front door. I opened the door, and headed straight towards my car.
Lo and behold, my entire future family was standing outside, all clapping!
With tears in his eyes, my father-in-law hugged me and said, "We are very happy that you have passed our little test. We couldn't ask for a better man for our daughter. Welcome to the family."
And the moral of this story is: Always keep your condoms in your car.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Single ladies - Should I buy a house when I am still single?
This is an interesting question. In my circle of friends, I have quite a divided group. On one camp are the independent, long term thinking ladies who will do everything for herself regardless whether she has a boyfriend or not. Therefore when the time is right, when she has the money to buy a property for herself, she will do so. However, on the other camp are the ones who also think of themselves but they don’t want to commit to buy a property as they are still waiting for the MAN to do this job. They rather spend on themselves and let the guy do the heavy stuff of buying a house!
Which camp are you on?
Let’s start with the Independent Camp. My Money is My Money
Their reasons for investing in their own home
1) I am 30, still staying with my parents!!! Ouch!!!
2) If not, I will be spending all my monies on clothers, perfumes, shoes, bags, cosmetics anyway etc
3) If I don’t get married, at least I still have a house
4) If I get married, I can stay in his house and make money from renting out mine!
The so called Not so Independent Camp (Your Money is My Money)
Their motto – It is the man’s job to buy a house!!
Their excuse for not investing in their own home property.
1) I am waiting for “my dream man” (whether he has appeared or not) to buy our “dream home”
2) Guys will be too intimidated if I seemed to independent
3) Too much of a hassle to decide where to stay (his place or my place) when we get married
4) I love my mom’s cooking and she washes and irons my clothes. Oh yeah! My dad washes and fixes my car too! :)
So what do you think? If you are a single lady and you have the means to invest your own home, would you do it?
Which camp are you on?
Let’s start with the Independent Camp. My Money is My Money
Their reasons for investing in their own home
1) I am 30, still staying with my parents!!! Ouch!!!
2) If not, I will be spending all my monies on clothers, perfumes, shoes, bags, cosmetics anyway etc
3) If I don’t get married, at least I still have a house
4) If I get married, I can stay in his house and make money from renting out mine!
The so called Not so Independent Camp (Your Money is My Money)
Their motto – It is the man’s job to buy a house!!
Their excuse for not investing in their own home property.
1) I am waiting for “my dream man” (whether he has appeared or not) to buy our “dream home”
2) Guys will be too intimidated if I seemed to independent
3) Too much of a hassle to decide where to stay (his place or my place) when we get married
4) I love my mom’s cooking and she washes and irons my clothes. Oh yeah! My dad washes and fixes my car too! :)
So what do you think? If you are a single lady and you have the means to invest your own home, would you do it?
Monday, February 23, 2009
KISS your way to healthier teeth!
Hey everyone! Miss me?? Ooops..sorry for the long silence. Too busy, too lazy, too many excuses for not posting any new entries for sometime now. I am back so keep coming back for more insights to this thing called L.O.V.E.!
Here's a great tip for the day, infact every day!!
Dental advisors at the British Dental Association say that KISSING is "nature's own cleaning process". It is a great way to prevent plaque build-up and tooth decay!
Constant lip-locking promotes saliva production, which in turn, washes away sugary solutions in the mouth and acidic saliva from consuming foods such as eggs, meat, wine and yoghurt. As a result, plaque buil-up is reduced, boosting the lifespan of your teeth.
Wow! So you choose....toothbrush or a juicy KISS??? Errr...I think both! :)
Monday, January 5, 2009
Romance Trivia
Happy Happy New Year.
Any romantic new year resolutions out there? I guess it should about the same, for those who are single, the resolution is to find the right one soon.
For those who have been dating for some time, would be likely to get married.
For those who are married errr...it is probably to get out of the marriage..... hahaha...kidding, kidding.
Whatever your resolutions are, I hope that love will always surround each and everyone of us. Have love in our hearts and spread the love around.
Let me share some trivia on romance...pretty corny some of them :
First Love
Two out of five marry their first love.
Forgotten Romance
Most recent research indicates just about 9,000 romantic couples each year take out marriage licenses, then fail to use them.
Go Ahead and Kiss
A team of medical experts in Virginia contends that you're more likely to catch the common cold virus by shaking hands than by kissing.
Honeymoons
The word honeymoon first appeared in the 16th century. 'Honey' is a reference to the sweetness of a new marriage and 'moon' is a bitter acknowledgment that this sweetness, like a full moon, would quickly fade.
Mating Birds
It was believed that birds chose their mates on February 14th and because doves mate for life, they have become a symbol of fidelity.
Morning Kissing
Studies indicate that a man who kisses his wife good-bye when he leaves for work every morning averages a higher income than those who don't. Husbands who exercise the rituals of affection tend to be more painstaking, more stable, more methodical, thus, higher earners. Studies also show that men who kiss their wives before leaving in the morning live 5 years longer than those who don't.
Oldest Bride
Minnie Munro became the world's oldest bride when she married Dudley Reid at the age of 102 on May 31, 1991. Reid, the groom, was 83 years old.
Oldest Groom
Harry Stevens was 103 when he married 84 year old Thelma Lucas at the Caravilla Retirement Home in Wisconsin on December 3, 1984.
On Bended Knee
One in 5 men proposes on one knee.
Phone Proposals
6% of men proposed to their girlfriends over the phone.
Red Roses
Red roses are the most popular flower to give on Valentine's Day and although they may all look the same to the untrained eye, there are actually more than 900 different varieties of dark-red and medium-red roses.
Romance Novels
Romance Novels are more popular than ever. 53% of all mass market paperback books sold in this country are Romances. Romance novels earn more money in the USA yearly than baseball! So, what's the national pastime?
Sex Manuals
The oldest sex manuals were published in China 5,000 years ago.
The Longest Engagement
Sixty-seven years, according to the Guinness Book of World Records. The happy couple finally wed at age 82!
Tying the Knot
The expression, "tying the knot" dates to Roman times, when the bride wore a girdle that was tied in knots - which the groom then had the fun of untying.
Your Hand in Marriage
Only 4% of men ask for the parent's approval for their bride's hand in marriage.
Source via
Any romantic new year resolutions out there? I guess it should about the same, for those who are single, the resolution is to find the right one soon.
For those who have been dating for some time, would be likely to get married.
For those who are married errr...it is probably to get out of the marriage..... hahaha...kidding, kidding.
Whatever your resolutions are, I hope that love will always surround each and everyone of us. Have love in our hearts and spread the love around.
Let me share some trivia on romance...pretty corny some of them :
First Love
Two out of five marry their first love.
Forgotten Romance
Most recent research indicates just about 9,000 romantic couples each year take out marriage licenses, then fail to use them.
Go Ahead and Kiss
A team of medical experts in Virginia contends that you're more likely to catch the common cold virus by shaking hands than by kissing.
Honeymoons
The word honeymoon first appeared in the 16th century. 'Honey' is a reference to the sweetness of a new marriage and 'moon' is a bitter acknowledgment that this sweetness, like a full moon, would quickly fade.
Mating Birds
It was believed that birds chose their mates on February 14th and because doves mate for life, they have become a symbol of fidelity.
Morning Kissing
Studies indicate that a man who kisses his wife good-bye when he leaves for work every morning averages a higher income than those who don't. Husbands who exercise the rituals of affection tend to be more painstaking, more stable, more methodical, thus, higher earners. Studies also show that men who kiss their wives before leaving in the morning live 5 years longer than those who don't.
Oldest Bride
Minnie Munro became the world's oldest bride when she married Dudley Reid at the age of 102 on May 31, 1991. Reid, the groom, was 83 years old.
Oldest Groom
Harry Stevens was 103 when he married 84 year old Thelma Lucas at the Caravilla Retirement Home in Wisconsin on December 3, 1984.
On Bended Knee
One in 5 men proposes on one knee.
Phone Proposals
6% of men proposed to their girlfriends over the phone.
Red Roses
Red roses are the most popular flower to give on Valentine's Day and although they may all look the same to the untrained eye, there are actually more than 900 different varieties of dark-red and medium-red roses.
Romance Novels
Romance Novels are more popular than ever. 53% of all mass market paperback books sold in this country are Romances. Romance novels earn more money in the USA yearly than baseball! So, what's the national pastime?
Sex Manuals
The oldest sex manuals were published in China 5,000 years ago.
The Longest Engagement
Sixty-seven years, according to the Guinness Book of World Records. The happy couple finally wed at age 82!
Tying the Knot
The expression, "tying the knot" dates to Roman times, when the bride wore a girdle that was tied in knots - which the groom then had the fun of untying.
Your Hand in Marriage
Only 4% of men ask for the parent's approval for their bride's hand in marriage.
Source via
Thursday, December 11, 2008
She says THIS but she means THAT!
FINE
This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks - this will cause you to have one of those arguments.
FIVE MINUTES
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it's an even trade.
NOTHING
This means "something," and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and end with "Fine"
GO AHEAD (With Raised Eyebrows)
This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine"
GO AHEAD (Normal Eyebrows)
This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care" You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.
LOUD SIGH
This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing"
SOFT SIGH
Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. "Soft Sighs" mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.
THAT'S OKAY
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and in conjunction with a "Raised Eyebrow."
GO AHEAD!
At some point in the near future, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.
PLEASE DO
This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get a "That's Okay"
THANKS
A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say you're welcome.
THANKS A LOT
This is much different from "Thanks." A woman will say, "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the "Loud Sigh." Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh," as she will only tell you "Nothing"
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This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use "fine" to describe how a woman looks - this will cause you to have one of those arguments.
FIVE MINUTES
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it's an even trade.
NOTHING
This means "something," and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. "Nothing" usually signifies an argument that will last "Five Minutes" and end with "Fine"
GO AHEAD (With Raised Eyebrows)
This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over "Nothing" and will end with the word "Fine"
GO AHEAD (Normal Eyebrows)
This means "I give up" or "do what you want because I don't care" You will get a "Raised Eyebrow Go Ahead" in just a few minutes, followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she will talk to you in about "Five Minutes" when she cools off.
LOUD SIGH
This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment, and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing"
SOFT SIGH
Again, not a word, but a non-verbal statement. "Soft Sighs" mean that she is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe, and she will stay content.
THAT'S OKAY
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you back for whatever it is that you have done. "That's Okay" is often used with the word "Fine" and in conjunction with a "Raised Eyebrow."
GO AHEAD!
At some point in the near future, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble.
PLEASE DO
This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance with the truth, so be careful and you shouldn't get a "That's Okay"
THANKS
A woman is thanking you. Do not faint. Just say you're welcome.
THANKS A LOT
This is much different from "Thanks." A woman will say, "Thanks A Lot" when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have offended her in some callous way, and will be followed by the "Loud Sigh." Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the "Loud Sigh," as she will only tell you "Nothing"
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Saturday, December 6, 2008
Best SEX position ever!!
Caution : For 18 and above only.
Haha..I found this, I don't know how accurate and best of all, it is written by a Man!! Look out for my comments at the end.
By David Harrison
I am about to reveal the best sex position ever. The technique will allow the female to enjoy as many orgasms as she can stand (hundreds in an evening are possible) and they will be the biggest, most earth-shattering orgasms of her life.
Any man capable of correctly performing this sex position on a woman will be revered by her as her best sexual partner.
The man and woman are naked and relaxed. For reasons to be explained shortly, the woman will relieve her bladder beforehand.
The woman is then encouraged to lie comfortably on her stomach upon the bed with her thighs slightly parted.
With his fingers, the man gently massages the vagina.
Soon enough, the natural lubricant allows him to easily slide his thumb into the vagina.
He travels into the vagina with his thumb and angles down, towards the bed, until he meets the resistance of a small knob, roughly the same size as the thumb, otherwise known as the Grafenberg spot or the G-spot.
The G-spot is gently rubbed; any way is appropriate: side to side or in a circular motion, as long as it is gentle. Treatment of the G-spot is similar to that of the clitoris in this initial stage. In other words, it is handled moderately, languidly.
As soon as the man feels the small knob inflate he begins to treat it increasingly more vigorously; the woman will soon let him know if he is being too rough but, almost always, this is never the case. When the G-spot becomes aroused it can be subjected to extremely vigorous treatment; in fact, the rougher, the better.
The woman feels herself rising to a climax, coupled with a sensation of needing to urinate. But she ignores the sensation emanating from her bladder. She will not pee because she has already urinated before trying this sex position.
Within a couple of minutes of her inflamed G-spot being manipulated, the woman experiences a huge, body-rocky G-spot orgasm. It is several times more powerful than the more commonplace clitoral orgasm.
Some women have reported it feeling ten to twenty times more orgasmic. Now, depending on the woman's overall level of health and fitness, the man can resume G-spot manipulation within thirty seconds to two minutes of the orgasm. He then simply repeats the rough, vigorous G-spot massage, until another orgasm rocks through the woman.
This process can be repeated with continued success as many times as the woman can stand. It is easily possible to give the woman several hundred earth-rending orgasms in one evening, interspersed by mere seconds or minutes.
This article is, of course, about the best sex position ever.
So I will now describe the second phase of coupling wherein the man substitutes his penis for, used up until now, his thumb. When the woman has experienced several orgasms, her G-spot will be highly sensitive. She will be able to feel the sensitive knob pleasurably throbbing within her vagina.
The man lies on his back and the woman mounts him, allowing his erect penis to completely penetrate her vagina. The woman is now able to ride the man and angle her body appropriately so the head of his penis is hitting her sensitive G-spot.
Just as when her G-spot was being manipulated by the man's thumb, the woman is able to experience repeated deep orgasms, separated by either seconds or minutes. To add to the already intense sexual pleasure she experiences by this sex position, she can also massage her own clitoris, and enjoy simultaneous G-spot and clitoral orgasmic climaxes.
I think you can appreciate how this is clearly the best sex position ever. In a single evening a woman is able to experience hundreds of orgasms, larger than ever before, and the man is, of course, revered for giving the woman such grandiose heights of sexual ecstasy.
After reading the whole techniques, I have only one question - Where the hell is the G-spot??
Haha..I found this, I don't know how accurate and best of all, it is written by a Man!! Look out for my comments at the end.
By David Harrison
I am about to reveal the best sex position ever. The technique will allow the female to enjoy as many orgasms as she can stand (hundreds in an evening are possible) and they will be the biggest, most earth-shattering orgasms of her life.
Any man capable of correctly performing this sex position on a woman will be revered by her as her best sexual partner.
The man and woman are naked and relaxed. For reasons to be explained shortly, the woman will relieve her bladder beforehand.
The woman is then encouraged to lie comfortably on her stomach upon the bed with her thighs slightly parted.
With his fingers, the man gently massages the vagina.
Soon enough, the natural lubricant allows him to easily slide his thumb into the vagina.
He travels into the vagina with his thumb and angles down, towards the bed, until he meets the resistance of a small knob, roughly the same size as the thumb, otherwise known as the Grafenberg spot or the G-spot.
The G-spot is gently rubbed; any way is appropriate: side to side or in a circular motion, as long as it is gentle. Treatment of the G-spot is similar to that of the clitoris in this initial stage. In other words, it is handled moderately, languidly.
As soon as the man feels the small knob inflate he begins to treat it increasingly more vigorously; the woman will soon let him know if he is being too rough but, almost always, this is never the case. When the G-spot becomes aroused it can be subjected to extremely vigorous treatment; in fact, the rougher, the better.
The woman feels herself rising to a climax, coupled with a sensation of needing to urinate. But she ignores the sensation emanating from her bladder. She will not pee because she has already urinated before trying this sex position.
Within a couple of minutes of her inflamed G-spot being manipulated, the woman experiences a huge, body-rocky G-spot orgasm. It is several times more powerful than the more commonplace clitoral orgasm.
Some women have reported it feeling ten to twenty times more orgasmic. Now, depending on the woman's overall level of health and fitness, the man can resume G-spot manipulation within thirty seconds to two minutes of the orgasm. He then simply repeats the rough, vigorous G-spot massage, until another orgasm rocks through the woman.
This process can be repeated with continued success as many times as the woman can stand. It is easily possible to give the woman several hundred earth-rending orgasms in one evening, interspersed by mere seconds or minutes.
This article is, of course, about the best sex position ever.
So I will now describe the second phase of coupling wherein the man substitutes his penis for, used up until now, his thumb. When the woman has experienced several orgasms, her G-spot will be highly sensitive. She will be able to feel the sensitive knob pleasurably throbbing within her vagina.
The man lies on his back and the woman mounts him, allowing his erect penis to completely penetrate her vagina. The woman is now able to ride the man and angle her body appropriately so the head of his penis is hitting her sensitive G-spot.
Just as when her G-spot was being manipulated by the man's thumb, the woman is able to experience repeated deep orgasms, separated by either seconds or minutes. To add to the already intense sexual pleasure she experiences by this sex position, she can also massage her own clitoris, and enjoy simultaneous G-spot and clitoral orgasmic climaxes.
I think you can appreciate how this is clearly the best sex position ever. In a single evening a woman is able to experience hundreds of orgasms, larger than ever before, and the man is, of course, revered for giving the woman such grandiose heights of sexual ecstasy.
After reading the whole techniques, I have only one question - Where the hell is the G-spot??
Monday, December 1, 2008
10 things you must do before saying "I do"
"I do" is 2 simple words but it has significant meaning when directed at the question of - Will you marry me? When you say "I do", it comes with a commitment to spend the rest of your life with the other person. It is not about being caught in the moment. For the person who asks and for the person who answers, it is a lifetime commitment. So, probably "we do" is more appropriate.
I decided to come up with my 10 things to do before saying "We do". Marriage is a big step and saying "We do" should not be taken lightly. These tips are some of my thought process before I took my big step. I hope it helps.
10 things you must do before saying "We do"
1. Ask yourself this question -Do you truly love each other? but the more important question to answer is - Can you see yourself living the rest of your life with this person?
You need to be certain that both of you love each other. Unfortunately, it’s easy to confuse infatuation and lust with love. Sometimes being comfortable with someone can also be confused with love. Suffice to say that infatuation is more about BEING IN LOVE with the way someone makes you feel. True love happens slowly and it requires nurture and time to grow and strengthen ; it’s about being committed and concerned for your partner’s well being. Therefore, you must be able to see yourself spending the rest of your life building and growing this commitment of love.
2. Get your parents blessings.
A marriage blessed by both parents are so important. Without the parents blessings, there will always be a discomfort in your heart. Infact, I believe that the right thing to do is for the man to ask for the girl's parents blessings before the proposal. Firstly, that shows respect and respect to parents that way, says a lot of the character of the man. This will definitely start the relationship with in-laws in the right way too.
3. Get your blood test done
It is just not about HIV or STD but also others for a new couple to consider. As I understand from my doctor, one such is Thalassemia which is a blood disorder. If you and your soon to be spouse are both Thalassemia carriers there is a 25% chance that your child will be born with Thalasemia and survival rate is low in the first 10 years. While it is unfortunate and blood should not be a determinant of love or marriage but you would want to make an informed decision. You can get married and you can still decide if having kids is an option that both of you want to take.
4. Decide how you want to handle finances
Money, this thing called money has a higher chance of destroying a marriage than improving it. Therefore a discussion of money or how to handle finances should be done before taking the plunge. "Who will be paying the bills? One joint account? separate accounts? Wife get allowances from husband? Who pay for what?" While many do not want to discuss about money cos it seemed so unromantic but I recommend to have a discussion and at the very least both of you can express your views and both will understand what are each other's expectations.
5. Who cleans the toilet??
6. Talk about children
Do you want children? If both of you want children, great. If neither of you wants to have children, that’s great too. The important thing is being on the same page when it comes to children, when to have them, and how to raise them. Many couples have split up over issues like this, all because they failed to ask this important pre-marriage question: “Do you want to have kids someday?”
7. Decide where to stayThis is important, sometimes we don't have a choice eg. both of you don't have a house so will have to stay with in-laws. Please align that clearly and both should agree. If staying with parents is a choice eg, Man will need to take care of parents always, make sure that your wife to be knows and will agree. I believe if given a choice, it is always great to start a newly married life together. This will ensure quality time spent without having to deal with family squabbles.
8. Throw away that little black book
This is not only for the guys but for the ladies too. When we decide to take the plunge, things will be different. We no longer can just go out with the opposite sex anytime, we want. No more flirting, no more flings. Are you ready for that?
9. Do you share the same beliefs?
If not, can you respect your differences? It’s easiest to marry someone who shares the same religious beliefs as yourself. However, it’s very possible for two people from different religious backgrounds to have a harmonious marriage If they’re able to understand and respect those differences. You should never marry someone with the hope of converting them to your idea of the “truth.” Religion is a tricky area and best to discuss to understand where each other stand.
10. Plan a great wedding and honeymoon but remember marriage is not the wedding.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Do not let the wedding and honeymoon become the end all and be all. I have seen people who really spent all the time and money to have the wedding of their dreams but in the midst of that, it has caused arguments, disagreements, tears etc. And it ended up that the wedding was the most unhappy time for the couple though it was the most beautiful wedding with the most beautiful decor and the most delicious food. The wedding should be a happy occasion so have fun planning it, don't raise the bar so high. End in mind should be a happy wedding not just a grand wedding.
So, are you ready to say "We do"?
Saturday, November 29, 2008
Man with desire to have ménage à trois aka "threesome"
Hi everyone, I am extremely excited. Since I have started this blog, I somehow feel that my writings are biased to women. Naturally... cos moi is a lady! :) So, I am happy to annouce that I found a man to contribute to my column from time to time. Let me just call him The Beast. Hope you will feedback on his first column.
Man with desire to have ménage à trois
by The Beast
Man with desire to have ménage à trois
by The Beast
I am not sure why one of man's ultimate sexual desire is to have a ménage à trois? Or in other words, having sex with 2 women at the same time. It is to show that he is the MAN of the men? Or is it just a big turn on for him?
According to wikipedia, Ménage à trois in French phrase ménage, (household) à , (for) trois, (three) literally translates as "household of three." A ménage à trois to simply put it, a romantic relationship in which three people, such as a married couple and a lover, live together and have sexual relations.
There is a challenge in actually achieving a ménage à trois. First you need have 2 women that agree to have sex with you. Both of them must be comfortable having sexual relationship with each other....Lesbianism?...not necessarily. It can be considered bi-sexual. Then the man need to be able to satisfy these 2 women and also this relationship need to be very agreeable and not have jealousy among 3 members of a ménage à trois. If they could achieve this status, then it will be a flourishing relationship.
Socially it is not an accepatable relationship. It is viewed as a unfaithful relationship because a GOOD relationship is between a man and a woman. If this relationship is somehow violated, it is then considered a socially unacceptable relationship.
Have you done it before?
Is this truly your fantasy?
Post a comment. let me know if you want it to be private.
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
101 ways to Say I LOVE YOU
It is only Tuesday......sigh....so I feel I need to spread a little love around. So cheer up by saying the 3 words of love. Read on, I have a small challenge at the end of this post.
Those three little words, "I Love You", hold a lot of meaning, but there's more ways to say them than you think.
Here are 101 different ways for you to verbally express your love to your sweetheart.
I adore you.
I am infatuated with you.
I appreciate you.
I can't live without you.
I can't stop thinking about you when we're apart.
I cherish you.
I dream of you.
I live for our love.
I love being around you.
I need you by my side.
I need you.
I respect you.
I value you.
I want a lifetime with you.
I am infatuated with you.
I appreciate you.
I can't live without you.
I can't stop thinking about you when we're apart.
I cherish you.
I dream of you.
I live for our love.
I love being around you.
I need you by my side.
I need you.
I respect you.
I value you.
I want a lifetime with you.
I want you.
I worship you.
I yearn for you.
I'm a better person because of you.
I'm blessed to have you in my life.
I'm devoted to you.
I'm fond of you.
I'm lost without you.
I'm nothing without you.
I'm passionate about you.
I'm thankful for you.
I'm yours.
Me and you. Always.
My love is unconditional.
Our love is invaluable.
Take me, I'm yours.
The thought of you brings a smile to my face.
Ti tengu cara (to female) or Ti tengu caru (to male).
Together, forever.
We were meant to be together.
You are a blessing in disguise.
You are an angel from God.
You are like a candle burning bright.
You are my crush.
You are my dear.
You are my everything.
You are my heart's desire.
You are my life.
You are my one and only.
You are my one true love.
You are my reason for living.
You are my strength.
You are my sunshine.
You are my treasure.
You are my world.
You are precious.
You are the light of my life.
You are the reason I'm alive.
You bring happiness to rainy days.
You bring joy to my life.
You cast a spell on me that can't be broken.
You complete me.
You drive me wild.
You fill me with desire.
You fill my heart.
You give me wings to fly.
You had me from hello.
You hold the key to my heart.
You inspire me.
You intoxicate me.
You lift me up to touch the sky.
You light my flame.
You light up my life.
You make me hot.
You make my heart skip a beat.
You make my world a better place.
You mean the world to me.
You motivate me.
You rock my world.
You seduce me.
You set my heart on fire.
You simply amaze me.
You stole my heart.
You sweeten my sour days.
You turn my world upside down.
You turn the darkness into light.
You're a dream come true.
You're a gem.
You're a twinkle in my eye.
You're absolutely wonderful.
You're all I want.
You're as beautiful as a sunset.
You're beautiful.
You're charming.
You're enchanting.
You're heavenly.
You're my angel.
You're my perfect match.
You're one in a million.
You're priceless.
You're sexy.
You're the apple of my eye.
You're the best thing that ever happened to me.
You're the best.
You're the diamond in the rough.
You're the one for me.
You're the one I've always wished for.
I worship you.
I yearn for you.
I'm a better person because of you.
I'm blessed to have you in my life.
I'm devoted to you.
I'm fond of you.
I'm lost without you.
I'm nothing without you.
I'm passionate about you.
I'm thankful for you.
I'm yours.
Me and you. Always.
My love is unconditional.
Our love is invaluable.
Take me, I'm yours.
The thought of you brings a smile to my face.
Ti tengu cara (to female) or Ti tengu caru (to male).
Together, forever.
We were meant to be together.
You are a blessing in disguise.
You are an angel from God.
You are like a candle burning bright.
You are my crush.
You are my dear.
You are my everything.
You are my heart's desire.
You are my life.
You are my one and only.
You are my one true love.
You are my reason for living.
You are my strength.
You are my sunshine.
You are my treasure.
You are my world.
You are precious.
You are the light of my life.
You are the reason I'm alive.
You bring happiness to rainy days.
You bring joy to my life.
You cast a spell on me that can't be broken.
You complete me.
You drive me wild.
You fill me with desire.
You fill my heart.
You give me wings to fly.
You had me from hello.
You hold the key to my heart.
You inspire me.
You intoxicate me.
You lift me up to touch the sky.
You light my flame.
You light up my life.
You make me hot.
You make my heart skip a beat.
You make my world a better place.
You mean the world to me.
You motivate me.
You rock my world.
You seduce me.
You set my heart on fire.
You simply amaze me.
You stole my heart.
You sweeten my sour days.
You turn my world upside down.
You turn the darkness into light.
You're a dream come true.
You're a gem.
You're a twinkle in my eye.
You're absolutely wonderful.
You're all I want.
You're as beautiful as a sunset.
You're beautiful.
You're charming.
You're enchanting.
You're heavenly.
You're my angel.
You're my perfect match.
You're one in a million.
You're priceless.
You're sexy.
You're the apple of my eye.
You're the best thing that ever happened to me.
You're the best.
You're the diamond in the rough.
You're the one for me.
You're the one I've always wished for.
OK....The challenge : here's what you can do.
1. Choose just one and say it to your loved one tonight.
2. Send one every day via email to your loved one for the next 100 days.
Come on, come on, it would be a lovely gesture. I will do it and if you do it too....let me know what's the response yeah!
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Heidi Klum & Seal - Still on Their Honeymoon!
I love stories about LOVE. Yeah...I am a hopeless romantic. So, I am sharing this bit of celebrity love news I just read from People.com.
I know that love in Hollywood is so fragile, it almost never lasts and we hear more about "phonecall" break-ups to messy divorces more than we hear about happily every after. I guess Hollywood is not a fairytale after all.
So whenever I read a piece of celebrity news which celebrates love, I almost always feel....there is hope. Love can prevail!
This is an interview with Heidi Klum and she talks about her husband Seal and how she feels she is still on honeymoon even though she's been married for a few years.
She has been married to Seal for three years, but Heidi KLum still feels like a newlywed. "Sometimes I lie in bed and I'm like, 'Oh my god, there's Seal lying next to me. What's he doing there?' " Klum tells In Style in its December issue. "I get a smile on my face immediately. Our honeymoon period is definitely not over."
How do Klum, 35, and Seal, 45, keep the spice in their relationship? "[We] have date nights," she says. "We go to dinner or to the movies. We like to keep it romantic. Some people wake up in the morning and turn over when they see their mate. That's not us."
Klum also credits her husband – not her modeling career – for her personal style evolution. "I've gotten more stylish since I've been with my husband," she says in the interview. "I was always making fun of him because he has so many leather coats, jackets and shoes. But he looks hot."
"I want to look good for him," Klum says. "So I kind of stepped it up a bit." The Project Runway host also shares her husband's interest in music. They sing together, she says, even if she isn't always on key. "We sing all the time," Klum says. "He's always rolling his eyeballs because I'm in the wrong key. But I know he's laughing about it too. So I'm not a singer – who cares? Not everyone is Seal!"
Isn't it romantic? It is always nice to read declarations of love.
Some key tips on feeling like you are on your honeymoon all the time :-
- they still spend quality time as a couple (even though they have kids) eg. date nights
- they make the effort to be involved in each other's interest. Seal is a singer, so she sings too
- Appreciate each other
- Make fun of each other
- Make the effort to look good for your spouse
Hope this piece of news give you hope on love.
Monday, November 17, 2008
10 signs He is in to You
When you meet a guy and you have just dated a few times, sometimes it is hard to gauge if he interested or not. Some guys want to be cool and since they are also unsure about your feelings they may not be so forthright in their pursuit.
However, there are a few tell tale signs that he is already smitten with you. Watch out for it.
1. He picks you up from the airport
2. He is comfortable listening to his phone message or phone call infront of you
3. He refers to the two of you as "we". eg We loved the James Bond movie.....
4. He calls you every morning at work and also at night before you sleep.
5. He asks you if you wanna go out shopping - any excuse to ask you out :)
6. He brings you soup when you are sick. aarrghhh!
7. He talks about his family and hints about a holiday to his home town
8. He invites you to join him on a boys night out.
9. He sends you flowers for no special reason.
10. He does not refuse when asked to be photographed together.
What do you think? Am I right? Did I miss any other pointers? Share...share....
However, there are a few tell tale signs that he is already smitten with you. Watch out for it.
1. He picks you up from the airport
2. He is comfortable listening to his phone message or phone call infront of you
3. He refers to the two of you as "we". eg We loved the James Bond movie.....
4. He calls you every morning at work and also at night before you sleep.
5. He asks you if you wanna go out shopping - any excuse to ask you out :)
6. He brings you soup when you are sick. aarrghhh!
7. He talks about his family and hints about a holiday to his home town
8. He invites you to join him on a boys night out.
9. He sends you flowers for no special reason.
10. He does not refuse when asked to be photographed together.
What do you think? Am I right? Did I miss any other pointers? Share...share....
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
5 things ruining your sex life in your bedroom
The question to ask is "Who is sleeping with you in your bedroom? Is it your spouse or is there someone else or something else that is taking the passion out of the bed?
The bedroom should be a place for your spouse and you. A bed of passion.
These are top 5 things that is sure a killer to the mood if you allow these sleeping partners to slip into bed with you.
1. The Baby
Taking care of a baby is not easy especially in the first few months. The crying, wailing for milk and also attention they seek from you as parents. It not only takes sex away from the bedroom but also sleep. It may be difficult but remember it is best to comfort them but leave them back in their cot and not take the baby in bed too. Once you start having the baby in your bed, it will be years before they leave :)
2. The Television
In this day and age, a telly in the bedroom is as common as a sofa in the living room. With a hectic lifestyle, there is not much time for the telly so catching the shows before bedtime is common for a lot of couple. But it is a real passion killer. The routine for bedtime would be telly before sleep no longer sex before sleep. So, if you can, try to ship the telly right out of the bedroom or better yet do not ship a telly in if it was never there. It's not easy and I don't think I can ever convince my hubby to move the TV out. Anyway, this may help (I have not used it yet) - "Studies show that a television kept on standby generates magnetic fields and imperceptible levels of noise that disrupt sleep"
3. Money $$$
Money is the root of all evil and money is also the cause of all arguments. Couples often argue about money especially when they lack of the green bucks. Never talk about money before sleep, or you won't get any action that night.
4. Work
Work stress is part and parcel of the working life. It is difficult to erase from work just because you are home. Especially if there is a deadline or your boss just gave you a scolding earlier in the day, it is common to bring the work worries back home. However, remember work is still just work at the end of the day. Your time with your family is most important. Be present when you are home, and ensure you are making every moment count. Also, sex helps to release endorphins that will lift your spirits and you will feel more positive to work again the next day!!
5. The drink..... or that one last drink...
Yup yup....if you had one too many drinks during after office drinks session, most often you will find that you would be struggling to perform. It is a myth to think that a few drinks will get you all ready to romp in the bedroom. Yeah, you probably want to but men may find it hard to perform and even for women who drank too much can have problems reaching orgasm. So, do pace yourself when you are out drinking.
What do you think? Can you kick these disruptive sleeping partners out of your bed?
Monday, November 10, 2008
The Bachelorette splits....and I was right!!
I was right! I was right!!!!
Sorry I had to gloat here a bit cos I was right!!! I knew she picked the wrong guy!
This is regarding the Bachelorette DeAnna Pappas. She just called off her engagement with the guy Jesse Csincsack, who proposed to her in the finale show and she accepted on national TV.
They even had a website together. And seemed so in love....ha! But I knew she choose the wrong guy and it not last. Anyway this is what her fiance said in a video posted on their website. Btw, I think they just took down their website as I can't get in anymore.
Jesse Said -
"I kind of feel like it's our responsibility to tell you we're not together anymore, DeAnna broke up with me two days ago, and I just wanted to come on here and tell you guys face-to-face, I'm sorry - I did everything in my power to try and make this work. "She's a great person, but she wasn’t willing to try anymore. "She wanted something different. The answer I got was, 'I love you, but I'm not in love with you. "That's a lot to swallow, no matter who you are. It's a lot to take in."
She just chose the wrong guy, it was obvious! She said she wanted marriage and stability but she went and chose the guy would don't seem to want that yet. Furthermore, the guy she rejected (the somewhat stable, but probably less interesting guy) he now will be get his second chance at love as the next Bachelor show coming up soon.
Well!! Well!! Sometimes, I really wonder if all these reality shows are just publicity stunts. But at least one of the couple did make it and still happily married with kids! Snippets of the Bachelorette seasons-
Season 1
Trista Rehn selected Ryan Sutter, and their December 2003 wedding was broadcast in one of the most widely viewed programs in the history of reality television. They welcomed their first child, son Maxwell Alston, on July 26, 2007. They remain the most famous and most successful coupling produced by the television series.
Season 3
Jen Schefft, selected by Andrew Firestone in Season 3 of The Bachelor, got a second chance at love, after her relationship with Firestone ended, in The Bachelorette's third season. She chose Jerry Ferris, an art gallery director, over fellow finalist John Paul Merritt in a first live final-rose ceremony.[2] During this last episode, Jerry proposed to Jen. She rejected his proposal, however, stating that the chemistry was not there.
Jen Schefft, selected by Andrew Firestone in Season 3 of The Bachelor, got a second chance at love, after her relationship with Firestone ended, in The Bachelorette's third season. She chose Jerry Ferris, an art gallery director, over fellow finalist John Paul Merritt in a first live final-rose ceremony.[2] During this last episode, Jerry proposed to Jen. She rejected his proposal, however, stating that the chemistry was not there.
, who won the The Bachelor but was yet rejected by bachelor Brad Womack, chose Jesse over Jason. They were set to wed on May 9, 2009 but the couple announced their break-up in November 2008
This show would probably not hit the shores of Malaysia since it will be too outdated anyway if it did. So, do read what I wrote about 3 months ago, just to prove that I was right!! Gloat! Gloat! Click here.
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Sexual Assault
It is about sexual predators, those "sick in the head" people who prey after women whether young or old. They may not go to the extend of rape but they thrive on sexual harassment or sexual assault, sometimes a slight grey area that is not so easily caught.
Some of their acts - Flasher (flashing of their genitals), they sit near you on the bus/train, they pressed themselves against you in crowded places, fondling - they accidentally touch your legs, breast, buttocks, verbal assault, incest and also sexual harassment at work. Worst is that these people likely will prey on kids, young teenagers who are not aware of what's wrong or what's right.
I do have a personal experience to share. I was very young, probably just 10 years old and I was taking public transportation to school in my hometown. Those times, it is very common to be taking public transportation to school at a young age, unlike now. I still remember I was sitting beside this big burly Indian man. I fell asleep. When I woke up, I saw that he has taken his dick out from his pants and was massaging it. It was a long time ago and I was very young but I was so ignorant that all I thought of was "poor guy - he must be sick (ill), his pee pee is injured and he is examining it." . I just remember that. I got off the bus after and it never made an impression on me after and I did not tell anyone. I just did not know better.
Now that I recall back, obviously that was a sick man, and this time I mean "psycho sick", "asshole" sick, "should be put in jail" kinda of sick. I really wonder why these men exists, what is going through their psychotic brains. Whatever it is, I feel we just need to protect ourselves, protect our children.
Some tips of what to do :-
1) Trust your Instincts
Firstly, we must know what is right and what is wrong. Sometimes sexual harassment feels a bit in the grey area (especially when it is a friend) but we must follow our instincts. If we don't feel comfortable, we must voice out. We must stop it and do not allow it to continue. Eg. A friend was on a plane and the guy beside her (smartly dressed, articulate and seemed like a perfect gentleman), he started a conversation with her. As the conversation progressed, he started to sit closer and closer to her. She started to feel uncomfortable, decided not to talk anymore and she began reading a magazine. This guy did not stop, continue to lean closer and closer to her brushing on her arms. At first, she was too shy to do anything but she really felt uncomfortable and she voiced out, told him to stop, if not she would inform the stewardess. He stopped but yet still had the nerve to ask for her number!
2) Be aware & Educate yourself
We need to be alert always and ensure we do not put ourselves in a vulnerable position. Educate ourselves with the knowledge on where these people usually attack. For eg. when jogging in the park, in crowded places especially in trains and buses, person who sits beside you in public places, beware of your drinks when you go clubbing, staying late night in the office, going to a quiet car park alone etc - these are all potential areas where the sexual predator may strike.
3) Educate our children
I believe that sex education is important to today's children. Television and the Internet are such major influencers in their life from young. As parents, we must teach them what is wrong and what is right and how to protect themselves.
4) Stand up and Voice Out
Do not be a silent victim. Do not feel shy or embarrassed. I think sometimes, we feel too embarrassed to voice out especially when you are in a public place. You pretend that it is ok and hope that it will go away, you tell yourself maybe you are imagining it etc. No, we cannot keep silence. If we feel violated, we must voice out.
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Oral Sex is Illegal???!!
This funny incident came up during my little reunion with a bunch of old friends. We have known each other for 10 years after joining a self development course therefore all of us are of different background and age group. It is a wonderfully diversified group yet we are close and able to share many stories whenever we meet up once or twice a year.
Inadvertently, the topic will always stir to sex. Usually with hilarious recommendations on what to eat to enhance “u know what”, what positions, or just tips on husband/wife relationship.
Inadvertently, the topic will always stir to sex. Usually with hilarious recommendations on what to eat to enhance “u know what”, what positions, or just tips on husband/wife relationship.
This time, the conversation started with the topic of Singaporeans. Brendy, my very well endowed friend - (trust me when I saw "very well endowed!" ), she was just commenting on how rigid Singaporeans are, how they are all so busy with work, less time to have babies, to have sex…..and then she said “ Yeah, they are so rigid, even oral sex is considered illegal in Singapore, that is simply ridiculous!”
We all turned to her….and then said, “Ah yeah. It is considered unnatural sex but you know that oral sex is also illegal in Malaysia right?”
You should have seen her expression. She was flabbergasted. She obviously does not know that oral sex is illegal in Malaysia and many countries around the world too.
Malaysia Law - Under Section 377A and 377B of the Penal Code, any person who has sexual relations with another involving the introduction of the penis into the anus or mouth, can be jailed up to 20 years and is also liable for whipping.
Please read link here for sodomy law.
Recently in Singapore oral and anal sex between consenting heterosexual adults is no longer an offense but oral and anal sex between consenting men, remains an offense. Singapore have moved one step ahead.
We all turned to her….and then said, “Ah yeah. It is considered unnatural sex but you know that oral sex is also illegal in Malaysia right?”
You should have seen her expression. She was flabbergasted. She obviously does not know that oral sex is illegal in Malaysia and many countries around the world too.
Malaysia Law - Under Section 377A and 377B of the Penal Code, any person who has sexual relations with another involving the introduction of the penis into the anus or mouth, can be jailed up to 20 years and is also liable for whipping.
Please read link here for sodomy law.
Recently in Singapore oral and anal sex between consenting heterosexual adults is no longer an offense but oral and anal sex between consenting men, remains an offense. Singapore have moved one step ahead.
So, did you know that oral sex is indeed illegal in Malaysia?
Friday, October 31, 2008
Guy's Sex Confessions - What they don't want you to do in bed?
I was reading Cosmopolitan and I thought the article on what guys don’t want women to do in bed is pretty interesting. These are few that I picked out and check out if you commit any of it.
1) Noise-making is great but don’t freak him out. Guys really dig into girls who respond in bed. It encourages him and a sign that he is doing the right things. But too much moaning will freak him out. He would think that you are too self absorbed and is not there for him eg. Even though he has not done anything, you are already moaning.
2) Being too self conscious of your body. I guess every woman is self conscious when naked. We are afraid that they will see our imperfections or touch our fleshy areas. But guys hate it when the girls are trying to cover up their bodies. They want a woman who is confident and ready to flaunt her body. If you are self conscious, dim the lights.
3) Too much unwanted hair. Ladies – remember to shave yeah….overgrown and untrimmed hair is not a turn-on. It's a total turn off.
4) Rushing off to the toilet immediately after sex. Ha ha…I thot this is what men do but apparently men don’t like it if their girl rush off to the toilet immediately after sex.
5) Be gentle as necessary. Men are very protective of their packs. While they like to see the girl taking charge, however do make sure you are not pressing or holding too hard. It is painful and all their mood will be gone.
Guys - Any confessions of your own? Do share. What about the gals? Share, Share.
1) Noise-making is great but don’t freak him out. Guys really dig into girls who respond in bed. It encourages him and a sign that he is doing the right things. But too much moaning will freak him out. He would think that you are too self absorbed and is not there for him eg. Even though he has not done anything, you are already moaning.
2) Being too self conscious of your body. I guess every woman is self conscious when naked. We are afraid that they will see our imperfections or touch our fleshy areas. But guys hate it when the girls are trying to cover up their bodies. They want a woman who is confident and ready to flaunt her body. If you are self conscious, dim the lights.
3) Too much unwanted hair. Ladies – remember to shave yeah….overgrown and untrimmed hair is not a turn-on. It's a total turn off.
4) Rushing off to the toilet immediately after sex. Ha ha…I thot this is what men do but apparently men don’t like it if their girl rush off to the toilet immediately after sex.
5) Be gentle as necessary. Men are very protective of their packs. While they like to see the girl taking charge, however do make sure you are not pressing or holding too hard. It is painful and all their mood will be gone.
Guys - Any confessions of your own? Do share. What about the gals? Share, Share.
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
What late PARTYING does to your looks?
We all probably had our share of partying days. For many, it is still a Friday night ritual and sometimes a few days a week. I believe partying is a phase that everyone should go through. As for me…been there, done that, I feel a little old for partying nowadays but I would still obliged once in a while. With the right company, it can be great fun.
However, I would like to warn all you party animals out there, what partying can do to your looks? I know when we are having fun, all other things does not matter. Hangovers, eye bags, headaches, don’t remember what you did last nite etc etc are common effects of a great partying night.
But what does it really do to your looks? It is a gradual effect but trust me….it ain’t pretty.
1) Your skin dries up.
I am sure you all know that you often feel very thirsty after a heavy drinking session. Alcohol has a dehydrating effect on your entire system. This will affect your entire body and the consequence is premature wrinkles. If you look at yourself in the mirror the next morning, you do look like you have aged 5 years right?
2) Your face becomes blotchy
Blotchiness of you face can be a permanent feature after much drinking. As your body absorbs booze, blood vessels becomes dilated causing redness and flushing where skin is thinnest such as your skin and eyes. Not a pretty sight
3) You will have DULL hair, nails and teeth
Drinking interferes with the absorption of vitamins and nutrients into your bodies. And no matter how much vitamin A, D, calcium and zinc , your hair nails and teeth will be dull as the minerals can penetrate into our bodies
4) You pack on the pounds
Who says booze is water and thus less calories. One can of beer is at least 150 calories, and a margarita is about 400 or more. Furthermore, booze will boost your appetite…so not surprising the mamak (night food) business is 24 hours, catering for the hungry partygoers.
However, I would like to warn all you party animals out there, what partying can do to your looks? I know when we are having fun, all other things does not matter. Hangovers, eye bags, headaches, don’t remember what you did last nite etc etc are common effects of a great partying night.
But what does it really do to your looks? It is a gradual effect but trust me….it ain’t pretty.
1) Your skin dries up.
I am sure you all know that you often feel very thirsty after a heavy drinking session. Alcohol has a dehydrating effect on your entire system. This will affect your entire body and the consequence is premature wrinkles. If you look at yourself in the mirror the next morning, you do look like you have aged 5 years right?
2) Your face becomes blotchy
Blotchiness of you face can be a permanent feature after much drinking. As your body absorbs booze, blood vessels becomes dilated causing redness and flushing where skin is thinnest such as your skin and eyes. Not a pretty sight
3) You will have DULL hair, nails and teeth
Drinking interferes with the absorption of vitamins and nutrients into your bodies. And no matter how much vitamin A, D, calcium and zinc , your hair nails and teeth will be dull as the minerals can penetrate into our bodies
4) You pack on the pounds
Who says booze is water and thus less calories. One can of beer is at least 150 calories, and a margarita is about 400 or more. Furthermore, booze will boost your appetite…so not surprising the mamak (night food) business is 24 hours, catering for the hungry partygoers.
Did I paint a bleak picture? Don't worry, enjoy life when we are young. Just don't overdo it. Your body needs a rest too.
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