The Bachelorette - did she make the right decision?

Sorry for those who have not seen the latest season of The Bachelorette cos I am about to spill the beans on the ending.

Well, I think for all those who watched, I think probably more than 50% (likely more) would think that Deanna Pappas has made the wrong decision and picked the wrong man! Now, I will give her the benefit of the doubt and probably blame it on the production team who probably steered our minds to favor the other guy just to give a shocker ending. You know.....that is television for you, just to get more ratings!

But, for this entry, I will take it at face value on exactly what I saw and write about it. So there you have it, a beautiful girl, she seemed really wholesome, grounded, sweet, knows what she wants and she claims she wants to settle down, find the right guy, have kids etc etc......like most of the women in the world wants.

So, she was lucky to be on this reality show whereby she was presented with all these good-looking eligible men. Now...cut the story short, she has picked down to the last two. One guy - Jason is a early 30s, good looking, stable job, grounded, probably a bit boring but secure and mature.....he is divorced with a kid, a wonderful father. Now, the other guy is Jesse 26, long haired, a snowboarder, full of fun, a bit quirky, never really been in a serious relationship (longest 2 years) and don't seem to be ready for commitment. However, in the course of the few weeks, both of them fall for Deanna and now it is up to her to choose.

Now, of course everyone is expecting her to choose Jason, what she wanted seem to be a fit to what Jason has to offer but as always...the shocker is that she went to Jesse, the unlikely guy. Well, at the finale show, they came out, looking really in love, engaged and also have set a date for the wedding.

The reactions were mixed, probably 20% supported her decision with most comments saying that she has made the biggest mistake and that the relationship won't last. He is not ready for commitment etc etc.

So, did she make the right decision? On face value, I would agree that she may have not made the most secure decision but then again, we never know. Deanna is 26 and probably while she says she wants to get married, have children, I guess she is not. Come on, she wants to have fun, she is in a reality show for goodness sake, of course she still wants to have fun and probably that is why she chose the fun guy. The family guy would have been too boring and she would need to get into huge responsibilities almost immediately. Now, I think if she was 29 or early 30s, I would think that her decision would be very different. She would definitely want more security.

Does this mean that her decision is a definite mistake? Maybe not, cos if they both grow and want the same things eg....the Snowboarder do have some sense for the future......will get serious and more committed, I think that they will likely stand a chance. She will probably be frustrated if Jesse just want to have fun all the time. Now the danger for guys is that some do want to be boys as long as they can. And they are so fun to be with, but girls - you have to choose - fun may not always equal to long term commitment as fast as you want it to be. It is a risk that you have to take. You know you mature much faster and your clocks ticks faster too....

So, my bet is that the relationship may not last. I don't mean to be MEAN and not support the relationship but I am kinda influenced by what I saw.....and I am conservative, I would go for the boring, grounded guy anytime. I am boring or maybe it is just that I am 30 something and wiser.

Anyway, we shall see...........