Romance Trivia

Happy Happy New Year.

Any romantic new year resolutions out there? I guess it should about the same, for those who are single, the resolution is to find the right one soon.
For those who have been dating for some time, would be likely to get married.
For those who are married errr...it is probably to get out of the marriage..... hahaha...kidding, kidding.

Whatever your resolutions are, I hope that love will always surround each and everyone of us. Have love in our hearts and spread the love around.

Let me share some trivia on romance...pretty corny some of them :


First Love
Two out of five marry their first love.


Forgotten Romance
Most recent research indicates just about 9,000 romantic couples each year take out marriage licenses, then fail to use them.


Go Ahead and Kiss
A team of medical experts in Virginia contends that you're more likely to catch the common cold virus by shaking hands than by kissing.


Honeymoons
The word honeymoon first appeared in the 16th century. 'Honey' is a reference to the sweetness of a new marriage and 'moon' is a bitter acknowledgment that this sweetness, like a full moon, would quickly fade.

Mating Birds
It was believed that birds chose their mates on February 14th and because doves mate for life, they have become a symbol of fidelity.

Morning Kissing
Studies indicate that a man who kisses his wife good-bye when he leaves for work every morning averages a higher income than those who don't. Husbands who exercise the rituals of affection tend to be more painstaking, more stable, more methodical, thus, higher earners. Studies also show that men who kiss their wives before leaving in the morning live 5 years longer than those who don't.


Oldest Bride
Minnie Munro became the world's oldest bride when she married Dudley Reid at the age of 102 on May 31, 1991. Reid, the groom, was 83 years old.


Oldest Groom
Harry Stevens was 103 when he married 84 year old Thelma Lucas at the Caravilla Retirement Home in Wisconsin on December 3, 1984.


On Bended Knee
One in 5 men proposes on one knee.


Phone Proposals
6% of men proposed to their girlfriends over the phone.


Red Roses
Red roses are the most popular flower to give on Valentine's Day and although they may all look the same to the untrained eye, there are actually more than 900 different varieties of dark-red and medium-red roses.

Romance Novels
Romance Novels are more popular than ever. 53% of all mass market paperback books sold in this country are Romances. Romance novels earn more money in the USA yearly than baseball! So, what's the national pastime?

Sex Manuals
The oldest sex manuals were published in China 5,000 years ago.


The Longest Engagement
Sixty-seven years, according to the Guinness Book of World Records. The happy couple finally wed at age 82!


Tying the Knot
The expression, "tying the knot" dates to Roman times, when the bride wore a girdle that was tied in knots - which the groom then had the fun of untying.


Your Hand in Marriage
Only 4% of men ask for the parent's approval for their bride's hand in marriage.

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101 ways to Say I LOVE YOU

It is only Tuesday......sigh....so I feel I need to spread a little love around. So cheer up by saying the 3 words of love. Read on, I have a small challenge at the end of this post.

Those three little words, "I Love You", hold a lot of meaning, but there's more ways to say them than you think.

Here are 101 different ways for you to verbally express your love to your sweetheart.

I adore you.
I am infatuated with you.
I appreciate you.
I can't live without you.
I can't stop thinking about you when we're apart.
I cherish you.
I dream of you.
I live for our love.
I love being around you.
I need you by my side.
I need you.
I respect you.
I value you.
I want a lifetime with you.

I want you.
I worship you.
I yearn for you.
I'm a better person because of you.
I'm blessed to have you in my life.
I'm devoted to you.
I'm fond of you.
I'm lost without you.
I'm nothing without you.
I'm passionate about you.
I'm thankful for you.
I'm yours.
Me and you. Always.
My love is unconditional.
Our love is invaluable.
Take me, I'm yours.
The thought of you brings a smile to my face.
Ti tengu cara (to female) or Ti tengu caru (to male).
Together, forever.
We were meant to be together.
You are a blessing in disguise.
You are an angel from God.
You are like a candle burning bright.
You are my crush.
You are my dear.
You are my everything.
You are my heart's desire.
You are my life.
You are my one and only.
You are my one true love.
You are my reason for living.
You are my strength.
You are my sunshine.
You are my treasure.
You are my world.
You are precious.
You are the light of my life.
You are the reason I'm alive.
You bring happiness to rainy days.
You bring joy to my life.
You cast a spell on me that can't be broken.
You complete me.
You drive me wild.
You fill me with desire.
You fill my heart.
You give me wings to fly.
You had me from hello.
You hold the key to my heart.
You inspire me.
You intoxicate me.
You lift me up to touch the sky.
You light my flame.
You light up my life.
You make me hot.
You make my heart skip a beat.
You make my world a better place.
You mean the world to me.
You motivate me.
You rock my world.
You seduce me.
You set my heart on fire.
You simply amaze me.
You stole my heart.
You sweeten my sour days.
You turn my world upside down.
You turn the darkness into light.
You're a dream come true.
You're a gem.
You're a twinkle in my eye.
You're absolutely wonderful.
You're all I want.
You're as beautiful as a sunset.
You're beautiful.
You're charming.
You're enchanting.
You're heavenly.
You're my angel.
You're my perfect match.
You're one in a million.
You're priceless.
You're sexy.
You're the apple of my eye.
You're the best thing that ever happened to me.
You're the best.
You're the diamond in the rough.
You're the one for me.
You're the one I've always wished for.

OK....The challenge : here's what you can do.

1. Choose just one and say it to your loved one tonight.

2. Send one every day via email to your loved one for the next 100 days.

Come on, come on, it would be a lovely gesture. I will do it and if you do it too....let me know what's the response yeah!

What is Love?

What is love?

This question suddenly came to my mind. I decided to search the net for some definitions. Many wrote that, it is one of the most difficult questions for mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love.

Oxford definition :-

1. an intense feeling of deep affection.

2. a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone.

3. a great interest and pleasure in something.

4. a person or thing that one loves.

5. (in tennis, squash, etc.) a score of zero. apparently from the phrase play for love (i.e. the love of the game, not for money).

I felt the oxford definitions are so dry and unromantic. These are others that I found.

A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.

A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.

An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.

A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.

The true meaning of love is found in the word "unconditional". Loving someone through their flaws and all. Accepting and embracing each others differences and compromising with their offerings.

Love is a unexplainable happiness.

I think it is very difficult to explain love. Love is a feeling, an emotion and that may be different for everyone.

To put it simply, you will know the meaning of love when you fall in love.

And when you do, don't ever forget it.

I will leave you with a beautiful L.O.V.E rendition by Nat King Cole.

Simple love stories - The Obama Story...

Sometimes the simplest story are the best love stories, no frills, no drama, just a simple hello, and the rest as they say is history.

I recently read Barack and Michelle Obama's love story. If you have been following the US presidential election, you will know that this man is potentially going to be one of the most powerful man in the future. Infact the future of America and how it affects the world, may lie in his hands.

I believe a man in his position with all the pressure of a political life and running a country, he definitely need a strong support system at home. For eg. Bill Clinton is very lucky to have Hilary Clinton stand beside him even when he made the biggest mistake of his life.

For Barack Obama, he has Michelle Obama. She has proven herself to be worthy of a wife that is so supportive of her husband, so strong in her values and know what are the right priorities of her life.

She has famously said that her 2 beautiful girls are the "center of the universe" for her and Barack.

How Barack and Michelle Met:

The Obama romance began in the spring of 1988. Michelle was a first-year attorney at a Chicago law firm. Word rippled through the law office that a hot-shot Harvard law student would be working at the firm that summer. She saw a photograph of the new hire and was less than dazzled.

She told Chicago Sun Times in 2004 "I thought, OK, he's probably not all that terrific, and he's probably kind of a clown, and then I found out that his name was Barack Obama, And like everybody else, Ithought, 'Well, what kind of name is that?'"

Michelle learned she'd been assigned to mentor the new guy. He reportedly didn't have much interest in corporate law, but did have a lot of interest in Michelle. Barack was less geeky than he appeared in his photo, and he wasn't the cocky Harvard student she'd been expecting.

Michelle found herself laughing at the same things as Barack. "I was charmed, and we became instant friends after [the] first conversation," Michelle Obama said.

"We should go out. He had no special lines. Barack's not some line-giver." Michelle said this of Barack recently to Ryan Seacreast on his KIIS FM radio show. At first, she said no to Barack repeatedly. She wasn't keen on office dating. Michelle even tried to fix him up with other young women. But the future U.S. senator wouldn't give in.

"Eventually I wore her down," he wrote in his 2006 book, The Audacity of Hope.

Their first date included a day at the Art Institute of Chicago, a drink at the top of the John Hancock Center, and a movie -- Spike Lee's "Do the Right Thing."

"He swept me off my feet," said Michelle Obama, recalling how her date made her laugh and intrigued her with his "deep understanding" of art.

Sitting on a curb, they shared their first kiss over Baskin-Robbins ice cream.

"I asked her if I could kiss her," Obama wrote. "It tasted of chocolate."

She said "she fell in love with him for the same reason many other people respect him; his connection with people."

Wedding Date: On October 18, 1992, Michelle and Barack's wedding ceremony was performed by Rev. Jeremiah A. Wright Jr. at Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago, Illinois.

Children:Barack and Michelle have two daughters, Malia Ann Obama: Born in 1999 and Natasha Obama: Born in 2001.

And now he could be the President of America and she could be first lady. Whatever happens, I hope they will always the special simple love story of how they met and how they fell in love.

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Being Silly with Each Other

One of the best things that both I and my husband have is the ability to be silly with each other. This is really special bond between the both of us.

I strongly encourage all couples to have their silly moments. It really brings 2 people together; you can be yourself and laugh at each other’s silliness.

It is difficult to describe on what silliness are because it would be different for every couple.

What I and my husband do are often spontaneous and just spur of the moment. Let me share with you some examples. It sounds so silly even as I was writing it.

1) We play act – eg. sometimes we pretend we are lawyers fighting a case, sometimes we become a Korean couple (eg we talk gibberish Korean language)
2) We have many pet names for each other
3) We act like kids or talk like babies or treat each other like babies
4) We gossip about other people. And I do mean exaggerated gossips with hand gestures and all.
5) We talk excitedly about small things.
6) We tickle each other, tease each other and make fun of each other. And it is all done in a light hearted way.
7) We have pet toys, eg. our pillows and blankets and we pretend that we love our pillows and blanket more. My husband will often pretend that he like to huggy his bolster more than me, I will tend try to get his attention to focus on me instead.
8) We tell each other that we are going to fart before doing so.

I cherished these silly moments, I feel lwe are like 2 kids playing and running around, laughing without a care in the world.

Do you have your silly mooments?

Beethoven's Love Letters

Still inspired after watching the movie Sex and The City, I decided to check around for the Beethoven's "love letter" mentioned in the movie. The one that Carrie read to Mr Big (it's so weird that Carrie actually called him "John" in the movie). In the end....Mr Big whispered to Carrie the 3 line from Beethoven's love letter.

These letters were found in Beethoven's desk after he died. They were not addressed to anybody, so it is impossible to know who he was writing to. Historians feel they were written to a married woman who he loved dearly, and who was leaving the city at the time of these letters.

Here is the letter. Be in love....hmmmm

Though still in bed, my thoughts go out to you, my Immortal Beloved, now and then joyfully, then sadly, waiting to learn whether or not fate will hear us - I can live only wholly with you or not at all - Yes, I am resolved to wander so long away from you until I can fly to your arms and say that I am really at home with you, and can send my soul enwrapped in you into the land of spirits - Yes, unhappily it must be so - You will be the more contained since you know my fidelity to you. No one else can ever possess my heart - never - never - Oh God, why must one be parted from one whom one so loves. And yet my life in V is now a wretched life - Your love makes me at once the happiest and the unhappiest of men - At my age I need a steady, quiet life - can that be so in our connection? My angel, I have just been told that the mailcoach goes every day - therefore I must close at once so that you may receive the letter at once - Be calm, only by a calm consideration of our existence can we achieve our purpose to live together - Be calm - love me - today - yesterday - what tearful longings for you - you - you - my life - my all - farewell. Oh continue to love me - never misjudge the most faithful heart of your beloved.

ever thine

ever mine

ever ours

What has become of love?

There was a time when love was about sending letters? Remember?...they call them love letters.
Then there was the telephone. So you can talk for hours and hours and hours.

Then there was the handphone. So you can talk for more hours, anytime, anywhere. Or least anywhere that has line and yr battery is not dead.

Then there was sms. Don't feel like talking...just sms! Whatmore, you can even divorce on the sms! Just sent it 3 times :)

Then there were emails. No need stamp. Just need internet connection and an email account.

With the world of internet.....it was a whole new ball game. Cyberlove, Cybersex, CyberMarriage etc etc.

But Blogging is a whole new dimension. It can be used to spread love and joy. It also can be used to hurt someone, and flaunt your dirty laundry in the streets. You become instantly popular. People want to know who did what, who slept with who, who got cheated and when you tell all in your blog, people will read!

So have love and dignity succumb to the lowest level just for the number of hits?

Infatuation over 30

As you get older, I would think that we no longer get that silly feeling of a crush or infatuation. In my mind, you just go for the kill, no such thing as guessing, does he like me, does he not, glance over to see what he is doing, thinking the whole nite, week, how to start a conversation etc.

But it is easier in my mind to say that all women over 30 should be brave enough to just talk to a guy, ask him out etc. But reality it is not. When you find yourself kinda attracted to a guy..and hey when you are over 30, it does not come often!!!! why you ask?...firstly, meeting a nice and decent looking guy is tough enough - men over 30s either is balding, getting really fat or just have an unpleasant personality. Secondly, you have to check out for the ring or try to find out if he is married. Thirdly...ohhh he is single! hurray! but wait a minute...we have to find out if he is gay!?? So now this whole process do take sometime so I think women have learned to suppress their feelings and emotions until they check out all the boxes.

If the guy clears all the hurdles, then the nightmare of infatuation starts.......oh does he like me, how do I get him to notice me...how to get his number or more like how to give him my number?, when can I see him again? so on and on.

It is frustrating, and you feel like you are 15 again, with butterflies in yr stomach, tossing and turning at night thinking abt him, calling yr girlfriends for emergency pet talks etc

So I am rooting for Soos who is interested in her yoga instructor. So he cleared stage 1 - kinda good looks and kinda a nice guy. Not married - tick. And not gay - this took a lot of verifications to confirm. So she has a plan in place to subtly ask him for drinks after her next yoga class. Wish her luck.