What is Love?

What is love?

This question suddenly came to my mind. I decided to search the net for some definitions. Many wrote that, it is one of the most difficult questions for mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love.

Oxford definition :-

1. an intense feeling of deep affection.

2. a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone.

3. a great interest and pleasure in something.

4. a person or thing that one loves.

5. (in tennis, squash, etc.) a score of zero. apparently from the phrase play for love (i.e. the love of the game, not for money).

I felt the oxford definitions are so dry and unromantic. These are others that I found.

A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.

A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.

An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.

A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.

The true meaning of love is found in the word "unconditional". Loving someone through their flaws and all. Accepting and embracing each others differences and compromising with their offerings.

Love is a unexplainable happiness.

I think it is very difficult to explain love. Love is a feeling, an emotion and that may be different for everyone.

To put it simply, you will know the meaning of love when you fall in love.

And when you do, don't ever forget it.

I will leave you with a beautiful L.O.V.E rendition by Nat King Cole.

DO I LOOK FAT?

I can only say for women and I think the above is absolutely true. Whenever we look into the mirror, we just see how fat we are. And that is why we always ask the stupid question of "DO I LOOK FAT?"

God forbid if anyone especially the boyfriend or husband to even hesitate to answer no. The answer is always No, You look great! No hesitation, no pondering. Better if you can fake a puzzled look of how ridiculous the question is like "duhhh! You look great! What are you talking about?"

I must give my hubby full credit for excellence in this area. Whenever I ask him that dreaded question - he never hesitates, never doubts - his answer is always NO! I will ask again and again, I will pressure him to look and agree with me. But he never fails. It is always a "No, you look good!

Sigh....I know it is not true always but trust me it does make me feel good.

I wonder if men prefer the truth or otherwise if they ask that dreaded question about their body!

Beautifying Beauty & The Beast....

Yeah...The truth is that I suck in understanding the technical aspects on how to beautiful my blog. Have been meaning to change the layout and the look but it took forever as I was just counting on my better half to improvise it for me.

He did it and the new layout looks good but there are just some minor tweaks here and there that we still need to do.

I look forward to any feedback that you may have. Let me know and I will try my best to work on it.

PMS - a myth or reality?

PMS – PreMenstrual Syndrome – something feared by men and usually denied by women. :)

The wiki definition – Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) (sometimes refered to as PMT or Premenstrual Tension) is a collection of physical, psychological, and emotional symptoms related to a woman's menstrual cycle.

So is there really such thing as PMS? Do women really have bizarre behaviors just before their monthly period?

This is my experience.

I never believed in PMS, I never experienced it before. I did not understand why people actually say that women have erratic behaviors every month. It is a myth definitely!! Probably something created by men to slander the womankind. :)

Then I hit my 30s. Just to be clear it only happened on a few occasions. Very rare ok but it happened. I can’t describe it. It went something like this. I would start by feeling a little blue, a little down and a little melancholy. Then I would be irritable or I would get a bit emotional. Why I noticed it? I was emotional over small things and worse, sometimes to the brink of tears. Crazy right??? Some silly things would spark me off. It happened one month and then the next month. I noticed the pattern and it was always before my period due date. I was mortified. Luckily it was only my boyfriend who took the brunt of my emotional state.

I stopped myself; I told myself I would not let this myth be a reality. I am a lot more conscious of my behavior and mood swings. So far so good.

So guys out there….. PMS is a myth as far as I am concerned. Believe it! *wink**, *wink**

Being Silly with Each Other

One of the best things that both I and my husband have is the ability to be silly with each other. This is really special bond between the both of us.

I strongly encourage all couples to have their silly moments. It really brings 2 people together; you can be yourself and laugh at each other’s silliness.

It is difficult to describe on what silliness are because it would be different for every couple.

What I and my husband do are often spontaneous and just spur of the moment. Let me share with you some examples. It sounds so silly even as I was writing it.

1) We play act – eg. sometimes we pretend we are lawyers fighting a case, sometimes we become a Korean couple (eg we talk gibberish Korean language)
2) We have many pet names for each other
3) We act like kids or talk like babies or treat each other like babies
4) We gossip about other people. And I do mean exaggerated gossips with hand gestures and all.
5) We talk excitedly about small things.
6) We tickle each other, tease each other and make fun of each other. And it is all done in a light hearted way.
7) We have pet toys, eg. our pillows and blankets and we pretend that we love our pillows and blanket more. My husband will often pretend that he like to huggy his bolster more than me, I will tend try to get his attention to focus on me instead.
8) We tell each other that we are going to fart before doing so.

I cherished these silly moments, I feel lwe are like 2 kids playing and running around, laughing without a care in the world.

Do you have your silly mooments?

My Husband

I have been married for a year.
I have lived with my husband for 6 mths.
Strange?
During our courtship, our relationship have been mainly long distance.
He is in US and I am in Malaysia. Thousand of miles apart.
After we got married, I still stayed in Malaysia for 6 mths before joining him in US.
So now, I have officially been a housewife for 6 mths.
It was wonderful, I cook, bake, garden, watch TV and shop, living the typical housewife life.
I am going back to Malaysia to visit my family for one month leaving this Thursday morning.

My husband called me yesterday from work and said -
" Dear, I am so sad you are going away for one month, I am going to miss you. I think I am going to take Thurs and Friday off from work."

In my mind, I was like - "Errr....for 6 mths since I have been here, you hardly take any off days (expect when we go on holidays) but you wanna take leave immediately when I go back home to visit my parents" :) you must be pretty happy to get rid of me :)

Anyway, I did not say anything as I was more amused than anything else.

So this morning before he went to work, he was lamenting again, how much he is going to miss me! Jokingly I said to him - " I don't know if you are going to miss me but you sure is eager to get rid of me since you are taking leave from work immediately when I step on the plane"

He was shocked that I saw it that way as it did not occur to him at all. He thot he would take leave because he would feel so down when I go away and taking some time off from work would be a good idea.

I know my silly husband did not mean any harm but I was just chuckling on how different men and women think.

Beautiful in My Eyes....

I have been feeling a bit down these few days and usually when I am down, I tend to appreciate people around me more. I try not to let my husband see that I am feeling down as I don't want people around me feeling awkward. Somehow, my husband is always aware and he will try in his little ways to cheer me up. Like today, he said he had sore throat and decided to stay home. I know that he wants to spend sometime with me and make sure I am ok. And these little things really make me appreciate him more, make me love him more. I gave him a facial and a massage! :)

I love the song below and always imagined my hubby singing it to me. I dedicate this song to him! :)

Men are visual, Women are emotional.

Is this a fact? I want to know why.

Why is it that men are interested or attracted to things visually? And women have to get all mushy and emotional, do I have feelings for him etc etc etc?

Is it because women think too much and men don't think that much? Or maybe they don't think at all.

Eyes do the scanning and dicky do the doing.

Ha ha...is it true?

This thing called love.....

Love..... what really is the definition of love? How do people nowadays regard this thing called love? After some time when you don't find love, do you still believe? Why does love comes with hurt? How do you know when you are in love?

I am 30-something and have found love.