Friday, October 31, 2008
Guy's Sex Confessions - What they don't want you to do in bed?
1) Noise-making is great but don’t freak him out. Guys really dig into girls who respond in bed. It encourages him and a sign that he is doing the right things. But too much moaning will freak him out. He would think that you are too self absorbed and is not there for him eg. Even though he has not done anything, you are already moaning.
2) Being too self conscious of your body. I guess every woman is self conscious when naked. We are afraid that they will see our imperfections or touch our fleshy areas. But guys hate it when the girls are trying to cover up their bodies. They want a woman who is confident and ready to flaunt her body. If you are self conscious, dim the lights.
3) Too much unwanted hair. Ladies – remember to shave yeah….overgrown and untrimmed hair is not a turn-on. It's a total turn off.
4) Rushing off to the toilet immediately after sex. Ha ha…I thot this is what men do but apparently men don’t like it if their girl rush off to the toilet immediately after sex.
5) Be gentle as necessary. Men are very protective of their packs. While they like to see the girl taking charge, however do make sure you are not pressing or holding too hard. It is painful and all their mood will be gone.
Guys - Any confessions of your own? Do share. What about the gals? Share, Share.
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
What late PARTYING does to your looks?
However, I would like to warn all you party animals out there, what partying can do to your looks? I know when we are having fun, all other things does not matter. Hangovers, eye bags, headaches, don’t remember what you did last nite etc etc are common effects of a great partying night.
But what does it really do to your looks? It is a gradual effect but trust me….it ain’t pretty.
1) Your skin dries up.
I am sure you all know that you often feel very thirsty after a heavy drinking session. Alcohol has a dehydrating effect on your entire system. This will affect your entire body and the consequence is premature wrinkles. If you look at yourself in the mirror the next morning, you do look like you have aged 5 years right?
2) Your face becomes blotchy
Blotchiness of you face can be a permanent feature after much drinking. As your body absorbs booze, blood vessels becomes dilated causing redness and flushing where skin is thinnest such as your skin and eyes. Not a pretty sight
3) You will have DULL hair, nails and teeth
Drinking interferes with the absorption of vitamins and nutrients into your bodies. And no matter how much vitamin A, D, calcium and zinc , your hair nails and teeth will be dull as the minerals can penetrate into our bodies
4) You pack on the pounds
Who says booze is water and thus less calories. One can of beer is at least 150 calories, and a margarita is about 400 or more. Furthermore, booze will boost your appetite…so not surprising the mamak (night food) business is 24 hours, catering for the hungry partygoers.
Did I paint a bleak picture? Don't worry, enjoy life when we are young. Just don't overdo it. Your body needs a rest too.
Sunday, October 26, 2008
What is Love?
Oxford definition :-
I felt the oxford definitions are so dry and unromantic. These are others that I found.
A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
Saturday, October 25, 2008
What does my Mother in law hate me? Part 2
These are my 5 tips on how to handle the situation, it will probably not solve the problem but hopefully it will help.
1) Patience is a virtue – This is utmost importance and if you have patience, half your problems will be solved. See no evil, hear no evil, say no evil.
2) Distance is sometimes better - If you have the opportunity at the begining to not stay with in-laws, please do so. It is the best way to start a marriage.
3) Make sure your hubby in on your side - This is a tricky one because one is his mom and the other is his wife. However for your sanity, he must be on your side. But you must play your cards well too. Never make him choose between his mother or you. Remember don’t bad mouth your mother in-law. Inform your husband of every single situation and make him understand and ensure he will stand by you. Don't nag or act hysterical.
4) Be a level above - Don’t fight back ( it will only give her reasons to torture you further) but also don’t be run over. Be confident and stated what is right in a "nice" way. You must always be one level above your mother in law. Don’t stoop to her level and play the same game. Play a higher level game like you are not affected. Don’t shout back, don’t break down in front of her.
5) Be the agent of change for the future – Knowing what you know, please do not do it to your son’s wife in future. Break the curse.
Monday, October 20, 2008
Why does my mother-in law hate me?
So why are mother in laws out to make their daughter in law’s life miserable? From my observations of my own family and from friends, these are reasons I can think of. It is important to understand what is causing them to behave a particular way.
1. You will always be the outsider.
This is a fact and the sooner you accept it the better. You have just come into a family that have 20-30 years history together. You are an outsider, you will not always get the same treatment as the other members, it may not be fair but it is reality. For eg, I noticed that some mother in law will always ask her own children to come eat dinner after she has cooked but she never ask the daughter in law. Face the fact, from a ranking standpoint, to her eyes you are last in the list. And since she prepared dinner (which she probably is not happy that you did not help) she likely will not even ask you to come eat.
2. It is the only way mother in laws know how to treat daughter in laws.
3. She feels threatened by your presence
4. No one is good enough for her son
5. Don’t bite the “breast” that fed you.
Do you have any nightmare mother in law stories? Do share…
This reminds me of the movie Monster in Law starring Jane Fonda and Jennifer Lopez. Watch below for a little laugh.
Saturday, October 18, 2008
Men who tell all after sex
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Can you tell your childhood friends that you are gay?
I personally have many gay friends…some of them are even really good friends of mine. Most if not all, are friends that I got to know when I started working. Most of them are in the advertising line working as creative personnel, PR, graphic design etc. And I realized that I don’t know any gay friends from my school days.
Many are still discovering their sexuality in their teens, in school. I guess most decide “to come out of the closet” in their 20s after they started working. Therefore, there would be few from teenage school days that we get to know as openly gay.
I would think it is really hard for a gay person to meet back their old school friends and revealing their sexual orientation. They probably have not met for years and there would be just so must history that facing them would not be something that one desires.
So, I would think that other than family, the next bunch of people that are hard to face or hard to tell about your sexual orientation are your childhood friends.
This is story I heard recently. It happened to a friend’s friend. They are all great buddies from school. They hang out together, some even rented rooms together, they take holidays together, basically they are a “gang”. Over the course of 10-15 years, I would say they have been through much together, or least supported each other in different times of need. Some got married, most remained single and they were just were a “gang” throughout the years. They meet regularly and life is just cool to always have a “gang” to hang out with.
One of them is gay. After years of friendship, he never once mentioned it. It is hard. Hard to face up to family and friends that he has known all your life. He is worried about what they would think? How they would react? How would they treat him? Can they still be good friends?
But how long can he keep it from his closest friends? Especially when he has found someone special in his life. He want to be open to his friends, he wants his friends to accept him, his sexuality and importantly he wants his friends to accept his new found partner.
In this day and age, having a gay friend is no longer a taboo. It may not be easy to open up but sometimes you gotta just bite the bullet and say it. Be prepared for gossips behind your back. It would be too unrealistic to expect that your friends are not going to talk about you. They will and they will talk and talk and talk and talk. But they will get tired eventually and as time pass, I am sure things will be back to normal again.
Friendship Remains And Never Can End. FRANCE........remember that we use to write this in autographs?!! :)
Friday, October 10, 2008
How do you tell your friends if you are gay?
All 8 of them have been thru thick and thin. They hang out, go on holidays, and always there for each other. One of them is gay. After 10 years, he has never confessed. Now he has found someone special. He wants his best friends to know but he does not know how they will accept his lifestyle. To make things worse, his friends does not like his "friend" and his "friend" is not really accepted in the group. He doesn't want to lose his friends but he is in dilemma on how they will accept his "friend".
Monday, October 6, 2008
DO I LOOK FAT?
God forbid if anyone especially the boyfriend or husband to even hesitate to answer no. The answer is always No, You look great! No hesitation, no pondering. Better if you can fake a puzzled look of how ridiculous the question is like "duhhh! You look great! What are you talking about?"
I must give my hubby full credit for excellence in this area. Whenever I ask him that dreaded question - he never hesitates, never doubts - his answer is always NO! I will ask again and again, I will pressure him to look and agree with me. But he never fails. It is always a "No, you look good!
Sigh....I know it is not true always but trust me it does make me feel good.
I wonder if men prefer the truth or otherwise if they ask that dreaded question about their body!
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Waking up in the morning - difference between men and women
Friday, October 3, 2008
My Top 6 Long Standing Celebrity Couples
However, there are also many couples that have lasted the test of time. These are some couples that I think are best roles models on marriages. I do hope that they will be happily ever after stories. Give us some hope that happily ever after do exists....
1) Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith (1997- present)
The couple met on the set of the movie Two Much, and were married a year later in May of 1996. They have one child together, a daughter named Stella del Carmen Banderas Griffith, who was born in 1996. Stella appears in the 1999 movie Crazy in Alabama. Melanie has three children altogether, basically one with each person she was married too. Her most noteable previous relationship was with Miami Vice star Don Johnson.
2) Michelle Pfeiffer and David E Kelly (1993- present)
In 1993, Pfeiffer was set up on a blind date with television writer and producer David E Kelley but it became a group event and they barely spoke to each other. The following week, Kelley took her to the cinema , and they began dating seriously. They married on November 13, 1993. Pfeiffer and Kelley have two children, one adopted daughter and one biological son.
3) John Travolta and Kelly Preston (1991 - present)
They met during the filming of The Experts. John and Kelly have been married twice. Their first marriage, performed by a Scientologist minister, was declared illegal. This made the couple have to followup with another ceremony that took place on September 12, 1992.
John and Kelly have a son, Jett Travolta (1992), and a daughter, Ella Blue Travolta (2000) together. Both of the couple are members of the Church of Scientology
4) Will Smith and Jada Pinket Smith (1997 - present)
They met when Jada tried out for the role of Will's girlfriend on "The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air" television series. (she lost the role to Nia Long). The couple was married on December 31 of 1997. They have two children together. Jaden Christopher Syre was born in 1998, and co-starred with his father in the movie The Pursuit of Happyness. The other child is Willow Camille Reign, born in 2000. Will has a son named Trey from his previous relationship
5) Hugh Jackman and Deborra Lee Furness (1996 - present)
Aussie actor Hugh Jackman has been married to Deborra Lee Furness since 1996. He believes in keeping his marriage fun and making compromises. Even though she is 13 years older than him, the secret to their long lasting marriage is making that person the most important thing in your life. They have two kids together, Oscar, 5, and Ava, 8 months.
6) Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson (1988 - present)
Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson met on the set of the television comedy "Bosom Buddies", but didn't get serious with her until the movie "Volunteers" in 1985, which also co-starred the late John Candy. They were married on April 30, 1988. The couple has two children. Tom had two children with his previous wife as well.
Thursday, October 2, 2008
Simple love stories - The Obama Story...
She said "she fell in love with him for the same reason many other people respect him; his connection with people."
Wedding Date: On October 18, 1992, Michelle and Barack's wedding ceremony was performed by Rev. Jeremiah A. Wright Jr. at Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago, Illinois.
Source from here and here