Man with desire to have ménage à trois aka "threesome"

Hi everyone, I am extremely excited. Since I have started this blog, I somehow feel that my writings are biased to women. Naturally... cos moi is a lady! :) So, I am happy to annouce that I found a man to contribute to my column from time to time. Let me just call him The Beast. Hope you will feedback on his first column.

Man with desire to have ménage à trois
by The Beast

I am not sure why one of man's ultimate sexual desire is to have a ménage à trois? Or in other words, having sex with 2 women at the same time. It is to show that he is the MAN of the men? Or is it just a big turn on for him?

According to wikipedia, Ménage à trois in French phrase ménage, (household) à, (for) trois, (three) literally translates as "household of three." A ménage à trois to simply put it, a romantic relationship in which three people, such as a married couple and a lover, live together and have sexual relations.

There is a challenge in actually achieving a ménage à trois. First you need have 2 women that agree to have sex with you. Both of them must be comfortable having sexual relationship with each other....Lesbianism?...not necessarily. It can be considered bi-sexual. Then the man need to be able to satisfy these 2 women and also this relationship need to be very agreeable and not have jealousy among 3 members of a ménage à trois. If they could achieve this status, then it will be a flourishing relationship.

Socially it is not an accepatable relationship. It is viewed as a unfaithful relationship because a GOOD relationship is between a man and a woman. If this relationship is somehow violated, it is then considered a socially unacceptable relationship.

Have you done it before?

Is this truly your fantasy?

Post a comment. let me know if you want it to be private.

101 ways to Say I LOVE YOU

It is only Tuesday......sigh....so I feel I need to spread a little love around. So cheer up by saying the 3 words of love. Read on, I have a small challenge at the end of this post.

Those three little words, "I Love You", hold a lot of meaning, but there's more ways to say them than you think.

Here are 101 different ways for you to verbally express your love to your sweetheart.

I adore you.
I am infatuated with you.
I appreciate you.
I can't live without you.
I can't stop thinking about you when we're apart.
I cherish you.
I dream of you.
I live for our love.
I love being around you.
I need you by my side.
I need you.
I respect you.
I value you.
I want a lifetime with you.

I want you.
I worship you.
I yearn for you.
I'm a better person because of you.
I'm blessed to have you in my life.
I'm devoted to you.
I'm fond of you.
I'm lost without you.
I'm nothing without you.
I'm passionate about you.
I'm thankful for you.
I'm yours.
Me and you. Always.
My love is unconditional.
Our love is invaluable.
Take me, I'm yours.
The thought of you brings a smile to my face.
Ti tengu cara (to female) or Ti tengu caru (to male).
Together, forever.
We were meant to be together.
You are a blessing in disguise.
You are an angel from God.
You are like a candle burning bright.
You are my crush.
You are my dear.
You are my everything.
You are my heart's desire.
You are my life.
You are my one and only.
You are my one true love.
You are my reason for living.
You are my strength.
You are my sunshine.
You are my treasure.
You are my world.
You are precious.
You are the light of my life.
You are the reason I'm alive.
You bring happiness to rainy days.
You bring joy to my life.
You cast a spell on me that can't be broken.
You complete me.
You drive me wild.
You fill me with desire.
You fill my heart.
You give me wings to fly.
You had me from hello.
You hold the key to my heart.
You inspire me.
You intoxicate me.
You lift me up to touch the sky.
You light my flame.
You light up my life.
You make me hot.
You make my heart skip a beat.
You make my world a better place.
You mean the world to me.
You motivate me.
You rock my world.
You seduce me.
You set my heart on fire.
You simply amaze me.
You stole my heart.
You sweeten my sour days.
You turn my world upside down.
You turn the darkness into light.
You're a dream come true.
You're a gem.
You're a twinkle in my eye.
You're absolutely wonderful.
You're all I want.
You're as beautiful as a sunset.
You're beautiful.
You're charming.
You're enchanting.
You're heavenly.
You're my angel.
You're my perfect match.
You're one in a million.
You're priceless.
You're sexy.
You're the apple of my eye.
You're the best thing that ever happened to me.
You're the best.
You're the diamond in the rough.
You're the one for me.
You're the one I've always wished for.

OK....The challenge : here's what you can do.

1. Choose just one and say it to your loved one tonight.

2. Send one every day via email to your loved one for the next 100 days.

Come on, come on, it would be a lovely gesture. I will do it and if you do it too....let me know what's the response yeah!

Heidi Klum & Seal - Still on Their Honeymoon!

I love stories about LOVE. Yeah...I am a hopeless romantic. So, I am sharing this bit of celebrity love news I just read from People.com.

I know that love in Hollywood is so fragile, it almost never lasts and we hear more about "phonecall" break-ups to messy divorces more than we hear about happily every after. I guess Hollywood is not a fairytale after all.

So whenever I read a piece of celebrity news which celebrates love, I almost always feel....there is hope. Love can prevail!

This is an interview with Heidi Klum and she talks about her husband Seal and how she feels she is still on honeymoon even though she's been married for a few years.

She has been married to Seal for three years, but Heidi KLum still feels like a newlywed. "Sometimes I lie in bed and I'm like, 'Oh my god, there's Seal lying next to me. What's he doing there?' " Klum tells In Style in its December issue. "I get a smile on my face immediately. Our honeymoon period is definitely not over."

How do Klum, 35, and Seal, 45, keep the spice in their relationship? "[We] have date nights," she says. "We go to dinner or to the movies. We like to keep it romantic. Some people wake up in the morning and turn over when they see their mate. That's not us."

Klum also credits her husband – not her modeling career – for her personal style evolution. "I've gotten more stylish since I've been with my husband," she says in the interview. "I was always making fun of him because he has so many leather coats, jackets and shoes. But he looks hot."

"I want to look good for him," Klum says. "So I kind of stepped it up a bit." The Project Runway host also shares her husband's interest in music. They sing together, she says, even if she isn't always on key. "We sing all the time," Klum says. "He's always rolling his eyeballs because I'm in the wrong key. But I know he's laughing about it too. So I'm not a singer – who cares? Not everyone is Seal!"

Isn't it romantic? It is always nice to read declarations of love.

Some key tips on feeling like you are on your honeymoon all the time :-

- they still spend quality time as a couple (even though they have kids) eg. date nights

- they make the effort to be involved in each other's interest. Seal is a singer, so she sings too

- Appreciate each other

- Make fun of each other

- Make the effort to look good for your spouse

Hope this piece of news give you hope on love.

10 signs He is in to You

When you meet a guy and you have just dated a few times, sometimes it is hard to gauge if he interested or not. Some guys want to be cool and since they are also unsure about your feelings they may not be so forthright in their pursuit.

However, there are a few tell tale signs that he is already smitten with you. Watch out for it.

1. He picks you up from the airport

2. He is comfortable listening to his phone message or phone call infront of you

3. He refers to the two of you as "we". eg We loved the James Bond movie.....

4. He calls you every morning at work and also at night before you sleep.

5. He asks you if you wanna go out shopping - any excuse to ask you out :)

6. He brings you soup when you are sick. aarrghhh!

7. He talks about his family and hints about a holiday to his home town

8. He invites you to join him on a boys night out.

9. He sends you flowers for no special reason.

10. He does not refuse when asked to be photographed together.

What do you think? Am I right? Did I miss any other pointers? Share...share....

5 things ruining your sex life in your bedroom

The question to ask is "Who is sleeping with you in your bedroom? Is it your spouse or is there someone else or something else that is taking the passion out of the bed?

The bedroom should be a place for your spouse and you. A bed of passion.

These are top 5 things that is sure a killer to the mood if you allow these sleeping partners to slip into bed with you.

1. The Baby

Taking care of a baby is not easy especially in the first few months. The crying, wailing for milk and also attention they seek from you as parents. It not only takes sex away from the bedroom but also sleep. It may be difficult but remember it is best to comfort them but leave them back in their cot and not take the baby in bed too. Once you start having the baby in your bed, it will be years before they leave :)


2. The Television

In this day and age, a telly in the bedroom is as common as a sofa in the living room. With a hectic lifestyle, there is not much time for the telly so catching the shows before bedtime is common for a lot of couple. But it is a real passion killer. The routine for bedtime would be telly before sleep no longer sex before sleep. So, if you can, try to ship the telly right out of the bedroom or better yet do not ship a telly in if it was never there. It's not easy and I don't think I can ever convince my hubby to move the TV out. Anyway, this may help (I have not used it yet) - "Studies show that a television kept on standby generates magnetic fields and imperceptible levels of noise that disrupt sleep"

3. Money $$$

Money is the root of all evil and money is also the cause of all arguments. Couples often argue about money especially when they lack of the green bucks. Never talk about money before sleep, or you won't get any action that night.

4. Work

Work stress is part and parcel of the working life. It is difficult to erase from work just because you are home. Especially if there is a deadline or your boss just gave you a scolding earlier in the day, it is common to bring the work worries back home. However, remember work is still just work at the end of the day. Your time with your family is most important. Be present when you are home, and ensure you are making every moment count. Also, sex helps to release endorphins that will lift your spirits and you will feel more positive to work again the next day!!

5. The drink..... or that one last drink...

Yup yup....if you had one too many drinks during after office drinks session, most often you will find that you would be struggling to perform. It is a myth to think that a few drinks will get you all ready to romp in the bedroom. Yeah, you probably want to but men may find it hard to perform and even for women who drank too much can have problems reaching orgasm. So, do pace yourself when you are out drinking.

What do you think? Can you kick these disruptive sleeping partners out of your bed?

The Bachelorette splits....and I was right!!

I was right! I was right!!!!

Sorry I had to gloat here a bit cos I was right!!! I knew she picked the wrong guy!

This is regarding the Bachelorette DeAnna Pappas. She just called off her engagement with the guy Jesse Csincsack, who proposed to her in the finale show and she accepted on national TV.

They even had a website together. And seemed so in love....ha! But I knew she choose the wrong guy and it not last. Anyway this is what her fiance said in a video posted on their website. Btw, I think they just took down their website as I can't get in anymore.

Jesse Said -

"I kind of feel like it's our responsibility to tell you we're not together anymore, DeAnna broke up with me two days ago, and I just wanted to come on here and tell you guys face-to-face, I'm sorry - I did everything in my power to try and make this work. "She's a great person, but she wasn’t willing to try anymore. "She wanted something different. The answer I got was, 'I love you, but I'm not in love with you. "That's a lot to swallow, no matter who you are. It's a lot to take in."

She just chose the wrong guy, it was obvious! She said she wanted marriage and stability but she went and chose the guy would don't seem to want that yet. Furthermore, the guy she rejected (the somewhat stable, but probably less interesting guy) he now will be get his second chance at love as the next Bachelor show coming up soon.

Well!! Well!! Sometimes, I really wonder if all these reality shows are just publicity stunts. But at least one of the couple did make it and still happily married with kids! Snippets of the Bachelorette seasons-

Season 1
Trista Rehn selected Ryan Sutter, and their December 2003 wedding was broadcast in one of the most widely viewed programs in the history of reality television. They welcomed their first child, son Maxwell Alston, on July 26, 2007. They remain the most famous and most successful coupling produced by the television series.

Season 2
Meredith Phillips chose Ian Mckee, but they ended their relationship in February 2005.

Season 3
Jen Schefft, selected by Andrew Firestone in Season 3 of The Bachelor, got a second chance at love, after her relationship with Firestone ended, in The Bachelorette's third season. She chose Jerry Ferris, an art gallery director, over fellow finalist John Paul Merritt in a first live final-rose ceremony.[2] During this last episode, Jerry proposed to Jen. She rejected his proposal, however, stating that the chemistry was not there.

Season 4
DeAnna Pappas

, who won the The Bachelor but was yet rejected by bachelor Brad Womack, chose Jesse over Jason. They were set to wed on May 9, 2009 but the couple announced their break-up in November 2008

This show would probably not hit the shores of Malaysia since it will be too outdated anyway if it did. So, do read what I wrote about 3 months ago, just to prove that I was right!! Gloat! Gloat! Click here.

Sexual Assault

As I was surfing the net, I came across this blog posting on Dreams & Reality.

It is about sexual predators, those "sick in the head" people who prey after women whether young or old. They may not go to the extend of rape but they thrive on sexual harassment or sexual assault, sometimes a slight grey area that is not so easily caught.

Some of their acts - Flasher (flashing of their genitals), they sit near you on the bus/train, they pressed themselves against you in crowded places, fondling - they accidentally touch your legs, breast, buttocks, verbal assault, incest and also sexual harassment at work. Worst is that these people likely will prey on kids, young teenagers who are not aware of what's wrong or what's right.

I do have a personal experience to share. I was very young, probably just 10 years old and I was taking public transportation to school in my hometown. Those times, it is very common to be taking public transportation to school at a young age, unlike now. I still remember I was sitting beside this big burly Indian man. I fell asleep. When I woke up, I saw that he has taken his dick out from his pants and was massaging it. It was a long time ago and I was very young but I was so ignorant that all I thought of was "poor guy - he must be sick (ill), his pee pee is injured and he is examining it." . I just remember that. I got off the bus after and it never made an impression on me after and I did not tell anyone. I just did not know better.

Now that I recall back, obviously that was a sick man, and this time I mean "psycho sick", "asshole" sick, "should be put in jail" kinda of sick. I really wonder why these men exists, what is going through their psychotic brains. Whatever it is, I feel we just need to protect ourselves, protect our children.

Some tips of what to do :-

1) Trust your Instincts

Firstly, we must know what is right and what is wrong. Sometimes sexual harassment feels a bit in the grey area (especially when it is a friend) but we must follow our instincts. If we don't feel comfortable, we must voice out. We must stop it and do not allow it to continue. Eg. A friend was on a plane and the guy beside her (smartly dressed, articulate and seemed like a perfect gentleman), he started a conversation with her. As the conversation progressed, he started to sit closer and closer to her. She started to feel uncomfortable, decided not to talk anymore and she began reading a magazine. This guy did not stop, continue to lean closer and closer to her brushing on her arms. At first, she was too shy to do anything but she really felt uncomfortable and she voiced out, told him to stop, if not she would inform the stewardess. He stopped but yet still had the nerve to ask for her number!

2) Be aware & Educate yourself

We need to be alert always and ensure we do not put ourselves in a vulnerable position. Educate ourselves with the knowledge on where these people usually attack. For eg. when jogging in the park, in crowded places especially in trains and buses, person who sits beside you in public places, beware of your drinks when you go clubbing, staying late night in the office, going to a quiet car park alone etc - these are all potential areas where the sexual predator may strike.

3) Educate our children

I believe that sex education is important to today's children. Television and the Internet are such major influencers in their life from young. As parents, we must teach them what is wrong and what is right and how to protect themselves.

4) Stand up and Voice Out

Do not be a silent victim. Do not feel shy or embarrassed. I think sometimes, we feel too embarrassed to voice out especially when you are in a public place. You pretend that it is ok and hope that it will go away, you tell yourself maybe you are imagining it etc. No, we cannot keep silence. If we feel violated, we must voice out.

Oral Sex is Illegal???!!

This funny incident came up during my little reunion with a bunch of old friends. We have known each other for 10 years after joining a self development course therefore all of us are of different background and age group. It is a wonderfully diversified group yet we are close and able to share many stories whenever we meet up once or twice a year.

Inadvertently, the topic will always stir to sex. Usually with hilarious recommendations on what to eat to enhance “u know what”, what positions, or just tips on husband/wife relationship.

This time, the conversation started with the topic of Singaporeans. Brendy, my very well endowed friend - (trust me when I saw "very well endowed!" ), she was just commenting on how rigid Singaporeans are, how they are all so busy with work, less time to have babies, to have sex…..and then she said “ Yeah, they are so rigid, even oral sex is considered illegal in Singapore, that is simply ridiculous!”

We all turned to her….and then said, “Ah yeah. It is considered unnatural sex but you know that oral sex is also illegal in Malaysia right?”

You should have seen her expression. She was flabbergasted. She obviously does not know that oral sex is illegal in Malaysia and many countries around the world too.

Malaysia Law - Under Section 377A and 377B of the Penal Code, any person who has sexual relations with another involving the introduction of the penis into the anus or mouth, can be jailed up to 20 years and is also liable for whipping.

Please read link here for sodomy law.

Recently in Singapore oral and anal sex between consenting heterosexual adults is no longer an offense but oral and anal sex between consenting men, remains an offense. Singapore have moved one step ahead.

So, did you know that oral sex is indeed illegal in Malaysia?