Image or Personality?

Is the image of a person more important or the personality of a person?

When asked what type of girls or guys you like, what would your answer be?

Are you more focused on the outer image or the inner personality?

Would you be considered shallow if your answer is more about the outer image - Tall, slim, long hair etc etc?

Or would you take the time to think thru what kind of personality you like to see in your other half?

So for my dear friend Jenns, she recently met a really "eligible guy". 30-something, successful, somewhat rich, good-looking, smart, confident, a real gentleman, average height and it seemed just a perfect fit for her, she is 30-something (2 yrs older than him), successful, creative, pretty, girly, intelligent, petite.

Seemed like a perfect match in heaven.

I was so hoping that they would hit it off. Therefore discreetly, I asked the guy, what type of girls he like? Two words dashed my hope for Jenns.

"Tall and young!"

Oops...that's it. Jenns is petite and just slightly older.

Does it mean there is no chance for the both of them?

I guess generally we are all often focused on image first. That is the first that we see and then we will discover the personality later. However, sometimes we may overlook personality just because we are so fixed on the image criteria.

Have you ever had friends of the opposite sex that you would never consider as a partner for whatever reason eg. looks nerdy, a bit fat, too tall, too short etc but when he/she gets their "significant half", you see your friend in a different light. You wonder how come you did not see what his/her older half saw in your friend? You suddenly see your friend as a loving and caring bf or gf versus just the nerdy, a bit fat, too tall, too short etc friend that you know.

And you wonder what would have happened if you saw these inner qualities first?

I think that the inner qualities of a person is more important but it takes time and also heart to discover these qualities. Don't be too pre-occupied with the image of the person you want.

Personality would outlast the image.