It’s just sex!
Pleasure now, why wait?
It's no big deal!
I love him, sex is something we do.
These are probably the views of the young people today. We are in a sex-saturated culture, waiting till marriage would seems outdated and prudish.
Sex is no longer viewed as a special bond given only to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Pleasure now is the name of the game and not many are thinking of the consequences.
Are there still merits to wait for marriage before having sex?
What about risk of contracting STDs and AIDS or getting pregnant? Premarital sex also leads to emotional distress, distrust, regret and emptiness.
I personally think that one should save sex for marriage. I may be accused of being old fashioned but I feel it is important to uphold and bring back the values and the importance of sex with the right person. Sex is just not another activity for dating couples. It has a deeper meaning, a deeper bond, a deeper value. If we can instill that value, we will have lesser teen pregnancies, lesser sexually transmitted diseases and probably lesser heart breaks.
I know many would think it is no big deal to have sex. And the more you see it on TV, the more your friends talk about their sexual rendezvous, the more everyone will look at sex as just another activity. It is no big deal! But is that really the case? Do we really feel that having sex is no big deal?
What are your views?
12 comments:
I agree completely. To most young people nowadays, sex is just sex. They have various "justifications" for it, i.e. if the couple knows the risks and is ready to take on the responsibilities should any of those risks crystallise.
But then the question is, at that age of 14 or 17 or 22 or 28, how sure can they be that they will take responsibility? Is abortion "taking responsibility"?
In the pursuit of pleasure and self gratification, I believe so many of us are blinded to the truth. The truth that sex is a gift from God and it is so much more than a few minutes of pleasure.
I don't know about othes, but I've always thought one of the greatest gifts you could give your spouse when you get married is your body. Symbolically, it's like saying "I'm yours, and yours alone".
And I have many friends who have chosen otherwise and slept around and all that. Let me just say that they ended up feeling emptier than ever before.
Cheers and God bless!
Ken - I totally agree with you but realistically it is really difficult to have that thinking in our world today. So many people fall into temptations. You have to be very strong and wise to not fall and that is not easy. However, I do believe that there is hope and as long there are people who still believe, there is HOPE!
But sometime we can't deny our desire. So one should always control our sexual desire. (which is pretty hard) lol.
All of you have your points. Me too, but all I want is just SEX SEX SEX. Pleasure forever... Haha... It's 21st Century man!
I used to believe in marriage after sex, but after living life, I say its worthwhile to have sex before marriage. If not in the middle, then at least when you're engaged, but never at the start.
The reasoning is simple, far too many people I know have cheated on their husbands and wives because they didn't know sex could be good and that their partners are bad in bed. It's better to know what you're getting into physically as well as emotionally because that kind of union matters as well.
It's good to know the price you pay. It's good to learn from the beginning. Personally, I'm alright with the casual sex culture. I just don't do it myself, but I won't stop my friends from it. Good for them if they enjoy it. I like listening to their stories and their dirty secrets. :)
I'd have thought in this day and age, that couples would think that a "test drive" would be necessary before marriage, just to ensure that all is in working order and that neither party would be in for a surprise when marriage takes place.
I already hear someone saying that a marriage is not only about sex. True - but how many marriages/relationships have failed because of sex and/or sexual related matters?
You are so right. We are indeed living in a society where sex is saturated to the max, where people get laughed at if they s o much as mention they're still virgins. I don't oppose to those we decide to have sex before marriage, as long as there's love. Sex is a celebration of love, not just to satisfy the desire.
Hello, first time visiting your blog. :)
Hyperx - Yeah I guess it is harder for guys to control sexual desires, actually probably hard for more women nowadays too :)
J T - :) But sex is then no longer special right? :)
Kamigoroshi and Ramblind Mind - I totally understand the "test drive" before buy concept. And definitely bad sex is tough for any marriage. However, you love a person not for sex. If sex is bad but you love each other, both should be willing to work on it for each other. It is like a challenge in a marriage. If something is broken, couples should work to fix it, you don't just throw it away.
CC - thanks for visiting. Agree that all couples should know why they want to have sex and what does it mean to both of them and individually. Also the responsibility/consequences that comes with it.It sounds like such a big deal but it is. There are consequences - physically and emotionally and each person should think thru that before deciding if they want to have sex before marriage.
The ideal is to have sex after marriage, but I don't think it's being practised anymore in this day and age.
For me, as long as the sex is about love and responsibility, it's ok. Casual sex and one night stands are a big no because that's just for fun devoid of love and any kind of responsibility.
Btw, a lot of people thought using the condom will prevent AIDS and other sexual disease. They did not realise that it's never a 100 percent guarantee that you won't catch AIDS even when using the condom.
foongpc - I really think that there should be more education on sex so that the young people will be more informed of the risks or protections before making the decision.
Pebbles, forgive a cynic here but I doubt most people have the capacity nor the capability to work on a challenge weekly, bi-weekly, or tri-weekly for the next 30-50 years...
People of a bygone age could do it simply because they had no recourse.
Rambling Mind - don't like that la...just because one is not good at sex, it doesn't mean you strike the person out right? With practise hopefully he/she can improve. Hmmm, how bad can one be at sex :) ?
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